Would you date someone who has a history of 'ghosting' others?

[TheUniqueOne96]

Close enough.

The ghosting I'm referring to, is the type of person who does it after like a first date, without even explaining anything, like they won't even tell you they don't want a second date, they'll just get on with their life as if nothing happened, simply because they can't be bothered replying and saying anything, potentially leaving their date thinking 'WTF happened'.

I'm not referring to those who ghost because some crazy, psycho is stalking them and they're worried about their safety or those who do it to people, who did it to them, as revenge, in those situations, I see it as perfectly reasonable.

Personally, I probably wouldn't, because if you're dating someone or trying to pursue them and they don't even bother to say something like 'I'm not interested anymore' and instead leave you hanging, without caring about how you may feel, then I honestly think it shows that they're uncaring, I mean just flipping say no, you don't know how the person feels, why leave them hanging like that, especially if you've already been on a first date with them.

In case you haven't seen my previous question, where I asked people what they think about the act, here it is:

What do you think of the act of 'ghosting' when it comes to dating?

Some of the answers I received on that question, inspired me to write this one, which I feel is different enough, so I'm not just totally repeating myself for everything, but like I stated in the previous question, I've never ghosted, nor been ghosted, so I'm not speaking from experience. The definition is also in the other question, in case anyone doesn't know what the term 'ghosting' means.

Yes, I'd date them.

No, I wouldn't date them

[Yads_Is_Back]

I’ve never been ghosted either, but the way I see it is there’s always a reason behind it. And tbh, I say that as someone who’s ghosted guys a lot. HOWEVER, the contradiction to your description is that you forgot to mention that sometimes the reason is obvious. Like if I go on a date with the guy and he lies to me, then he knows the reason I’m cutting him off and if he doesn’t then in my opinion he doesn’t deserve the reason anyway.
With that being said, I wouldn’t ghost him if it’s just plain “I’m not longer interested.” I would tell him that.

So would I date a guy who has my same history of ghosting people? Yeah. Either he will ghost me or we will continue what we started. I don’t see a problem with it.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Would I date a guy who ghosts like you mentioned in the description? No.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Thanks for answering. I think it's understandable when someone lies to you about something, before meeting up for the first time, especially if it's about something that's rather obvious, but the general laziness, like in the description I mentioned, is just straight up stupid.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I can agree on that

[TheUniqueOne96]

And I agree with you on that, for agreeing with me. 😂

[rzombielove]

Hi Yads, I don't agree with you that there's always a reason for ghosting..
From my experience some people are just like that. They ghost others, when they feel they don't have anything to gain from them, because they lack respect about people.

I used to have a fake friend, who ghosted me and ignored my text or call and then used to text me back whenever she needed class notes or money...
I've forgiven her once but never again

[rzombielove]

Voted B
But unfortunately there's no way to know if someone's like that, before you date them

[TheUniqueOne96]

True, but for the sake of the question, you somehow know lol. Fair point though, I should have probably made it more clear in the question. Thanks for answering and voting. =)

[bolverk]

Not a chance for my even considering someone who is know to ghost, but how do you find out before hand?
Because sure as hell her friends will not tell you that all she's looking for is the free meal, it would not be so bad if you got a 'Sorry -but' text.,

[TheUniqueOne96]

Let's just say you somehow know for sure or she told you herself.

[bolverk]

If she said it was a one off date then fine, but the majority never do, and now they are beginning to wonder why no one wants to date them, you've probably seen the questions on here asking why suddenly they are in a dating desert when they have created it themselves.
I gave up dating along time ago, once in a while I'll invite a friend out to dinner but that it nothing more, no pressure, just a relaxing night we can both enjoy..

[Clyde_123]

Nope. And neither should you.

[edmonton]

Nope, not a chance