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I help my ex with money when he was my boyfriend.
he is poor.

he broke up with me
he says we have no future because I don’t have a career and he has no job & too old to start anything in his view

he didn’t care to hurt me even if I said I didn’t care if he was poor.

I understand this we have nothing but it doesn’t mean we can’t try. In my view

he doesn’t want to work a regular low paying job he sees it as losers do that.

I had to beg him to be my friend, after the break up. he didn’t want to even talk to me.
i begged only until I could feel better. he blocks me a lot of I say things that make him mad and I have to repeatedly bag him to unblock me because I’m lonely.

having someone to talk to helps and I don’t have money to be paying a therapist.

I have money because my parents have money.

fast forward to today, i am still depressed but feel less sad on days we talk

sometimes he makes me more sad but overall at least I have someone to talk with

back to the purpose of the question

his mom suddenly became sick.
since he is poor he can’t afford to go to specialists and can only receive the medical attention that is free

she’s been in the hospital more than a week now,

still no answers on what is wrong and the situation is getting worse

she has pain, losing her vision & today they diagnose her with COVID

No answers on the initial problem but now gave her COVID. She did not have it when she got there.

he asked me if I could help him with money again
so that he can take her to a hospital in a better city

QUESTION:
would you Help him with money if you were me?

he’s obviously not going to pay me back because he’s Poor

i was saving money to do surgery on myself for aesthetic reasons.

somehow feels selfish to say no and then use the money I have to make myself look better.
if his mom gets sicker or dies I would feel guilty even though it’s not my responsibility.

what would you do?
advice?

Ever since I was a child, I was very spoilt and felt very entitled. I would throw tantrums if things don’t go my way, unfortunately this behaviour has been carried on till teen hood. I was very selfish and I too had unrealistic expectations which didn’t happen to go the way I want it. I refused to believe my classmates who called me ‘spoilt’. Worst still I didn’t know how to do chores until I was 20. At 21, I became more mature but I still have to change my negative mindset and sometimes I’m childish but it’s way better than when I was a teenager. I’m still trying to change for the better and my best friend inspired me to be more like her, since she’s the oldest sibling which explains why she was very mature at a young age. I was the only child in the family that’s why I mature very slowly. It was a struggle but I managed to improve.