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@ThatDude29 Its a special kind of allure that just captivates. It's very powerful. When a women uses her femininity in the right way she has at her command literally a generation of men. And i don't mean that hyperbolically. And i'm not talking about sexual.

@backdoorman We men are irresistibly attracted to femininity, a fact that seems lost on many of today's women, who it seems have been led to believe femininity = weakness. Trust me when I say that as long as there are straight men in this world, femininity will be power, not weakness.

@hellionthesagereborn I feel like in any other era this question would have a very obvious answer. I don't need a woman to be strong because no matter how strong she will never be as strong as myself. I don't need a woman who acts like a man because I am a man. She can however offer something I can never have which is femininity. She can be nurturing in a way that I cannot provide for myself, she can instill in me a sense of purpose. Men are built to provide and protect women and family. This gives them a reason to strive and a reason to work hard because they have someone to make these sacrifices for. If she chooses the man she is saying he is important enough that she wants and that she trusts in his value enough that she thinks he will pass on the best of himself to her offspring (that's a very big deal). So yes femininity is desired, doesn't mean she can't like masculine things, but it does mean that she will have a certain outlook and a certain behavior that can only be done by women.

@Average_but_not_Joe I've known people who believe being feminine means showing off assets to get attention and girly-girl means doing makeup and going to parties. I am looking for someone that'll have my back when I need it, a partner.

Pros and cons of dating a divorcee:

Pros
1. Time – divorce is often the result of a relationship where people rushed in too quickly and didn’t really take sufficient time to get to know each other. It is unlikely that someone who has been through this will want to make the same mistake again so they are more likely to take their time getting to know you.

2. Commitment – having already made a commitment a divorcee will often be much clearer about the realities of that decision and the problems that can arise.

3. Experience – when someone has been through the pain, loss and separation that divorce can entail, it can make them more rounded as a person.


Cons
1. Once bitten – for some divorcees the experience was so painful that they resolve to never make the same mistake again and therefore will not consider remarrying.

2. Emotional baggage – a bad divorce can leave people bitter, angry, resentful and with a skewed view of relationships. While their feelings may be entirely justified it may be impossible to break down the barriers and form a new relationship until they have worked through the issues. It takes time to heal and the more recent the divorce was the more likely it is that they are still working through their feelings.

3. Trust – although it is unfair to be judged because of someone else’s bad behavior, when a person has been badly hurt they are going to be wary of trusting again. You will need to be patient and over time trust will build as the painful past is replaced with healthier experiences in the here and now.

4. Family ties – if there are children from the marriage you have to accept, whatever the age of the children and whether they live with their parent or not, that this match comes as a package. Having children will usually also necessitate contact with the other parent to some degree and this can be difficult when a new relationship is developing.