@ThatDude29 Its a special kind of allure that just captivates. It's very powerful. When a women uses her femininity in the right way she has at her command literally a generation of men. And i don't mean that hyperbolically. And i'm not talking about sexual.
@backdoorman We men are irresistibly attracted to femininity, a fact that seems lost on many of today's women, who it seems have been led to believe femininity = weakness. Trust me when I say that as long as there are straight men in this world, femininity will be power, not weakness.
@hellionthesagereborn I feel like in any other era this question would have a very obvious answer. I don't need a woman to be strong because no matter how strong she will never be as strong as myself. I don't need a woman who acts like a man because I am a man. She can however offer something I can never have which is femininity. She can be nurturing in a way that I cannot provide for myself, she can instill in me a sense of purpose. Men are built to provide and protect women and family. This gives them a reason to strive and a reason to work hard because they have someone to make these sacrifices for. If she chooses the man she is saying he is important enough that she wants and that she trusts in his value enough that she thinks he will pass on the best of himself to her offspring (that's a very big deal). So yes femininity is desired, doesn't mean she can't like masculine things, but it does mean that she will have a certain outlook and a certain behavior that can only be done by women.
@Average_but_not_Joe I've known people who believe being feminine means showing off assets to get attention and girly-girl means doing makeup and going to parties. I am looking for someone that'll have my back when I need it, a partner.Audrey HepburnAna de ArmasKate MossModel profile w/ hatGrace KellyGrace KellyClothing by Elisabetta Franchi, Dubai, w/ Arabian mareFashion show backstage, designer unknownKate MossCara Delevigne
It's very appealing.
It's not very appealing.
I feel neutral about this.
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@kaewk Femininity to me isn’t about makeup and fake nails. It’s about how you conduct yourself.
@Flamdring The perfect combination is when the woman is not afraid of her own looks without makeup or perfectly done hair; when she can behave as she wants, and not how the society wants her to.
@bigcuband Nails, heels, hair done, soft skin, good smells, tight fitting clothing, these are some of the ways to make me put my coat on a puddle and let a woman cross.
How appealing is femininity in a woman? What type of femininity is most attractive to you? What's your definition of feminine?
I don't know if it is just me or many women, but I have always hoped to be the women you describe and have a man appreciate those qualities in me, but the guys in my life seemed to have always been not appreciative of my feminine qualities. In my heart I do want a man to be a protector for my family and want to feel feminine, but the world seems to be more interested in more masculine traits in a women and after years, I just don't feel happy. So that is what makes me scared of men in terms of letting my heart out but honestly a man who loves me is all I ever wanted.
Thank you and I appreciate the honesty in your answer. Strange that if I heard this in my twenties I would have probably fought with you, BUT getting older has made me realize that the situation is so different to what I was lead to believe in school. My school days were filled with slogans telling girls to be everything and anything except "motherhood". Thanks for understanding my feelings as I speak from my heart. I know and sometimes when i hear that I just feel depressed. As a women, I can honestly say that I really do want and need a man in my life. I have a good job and career like just like what I was told to do and initially the freedom was great, but now I come home to an empty house everyday. In my country I find so many single people now and I wonder what might happen in the future. You're right its scary and frustrating. After years of being in a work environment I feel like I've lost my own femininity. I hope that Men and Women will come to understand that we need each other and more important than equality is actually "harmony" between the two. However if i may disagree politely on the issue of work. I do also feel as a women that I want to work for a while probably before my kids come (but I understand your point). Anyway, i will keep looking maybe a miracle will happen. I hope you will get to find your lady and have a lovely family.
Indeed that is the great tragedy. I just wish people where honest to me when I was younger. I can only imagine what it feels like as a guy your age. I often have those feelings too. That's true... I was told so much about "women" and how we should do and feel as we want but that in reality it often comes with a pinch of salt. I agree on the parent staying at home... I remember reading somewhere that kids that have parental attention at home perform much better in life too. I feel sad that so many today don't understand that harmony has to be there between the sexes and its not just about "me or I" but rather "we and us".
All I can say is, I adore feminine women. To describe what type of femininity is most attractive to me is almost too complicated.
I won't describe body types but, needless to say, femininity includes undulating curves and jiggle. To watch them walk is mesmerizing. They move differently than men.
In art, vertical, horizontal, diagonal, and curvilinear lines convey different psychological messages. Curved lines suggest movement, fluidity. Again, women are all curves.
Femininity also includes the idea of softness, as well as smooth, silky skin that is, for the most part, devoid of hair.
Things like smaller stature and lack of bulky muscle, body fat, smooth faces, and higher voices create a charming, child-like quality when compared to grown men who can in no way be described as child-like. I don't mean that in a bad way. And I'm not suggesting that men are sexually attracted to children. After all, children don't have boobs or curves. But diminutive words to describe women, such as "baby" are commonly used.
On to other aspects of femininity: They tend to give habitations "a woman's touch" with curtains, frills, furniture arrangements, and attractive details. They like cleanliness.
Women seem predisposed to loving pretty things and making themselves look pretty. They like to adorn their hair, necks, wrists, fingers and other body parts. They paint their toe and finger nails and experiment with makeup and hair styles. They are suited to wearing a wide variety of clothing that accentuates their bodies.
Women tend to be more sensitive, compassionate, tender, caring, nurturing, and intuitive than men. A case can be made that they are also more perceptive because they are much more attuned to observing body language, vocal inflection, etc. And why can they find things in the refrigerator, cabinet or closet when men can't? hee hee
Women can also be as self confident, decisive, determined and intelligent as men.
All of these qualities are why women are sexy as hell. I adore femininity.
I forgot to say how wonderful and unique it is to femininity for women to use lotions and products to keep their hair and skin healthy, silky and fragrant.
Reading through the responses here it's clear that 'femininity' means different things to different people, so I will not pretend my own definition is the "correct" one. And I won't go into great detail about how I perceive it except to say that, just like masculinity, I think femininity is ultimately defined by nature, and by what has always attracted men and women to each other. It's what makes us compliment each other, love and admire each other and allows us to bring our own unique strengths to a partnership where together we can accomplish more than we can as individuals. I think we are losing sight of that more and more as a society.
Thank you, that's kind of you to say. This was a great question, and I have enjoyed a lot of what you have written here at GAG, especially on gender related topics. So much of what is written here is biased and polarizing and you seem more balanced and thoughtful, which I admire and appreciate. Please keep it coming.
I appreciate what each of these individuals said but I like this response the best:
@hellionthesagereborn I feel like in any other era this question would have a very obvious answer. I don't need a woman to be strong because no matter how strong she will never be as strong as myself. I don't need a woman who acts like a man because I am a man. She can however offer something I can never have which is femininity. She can be nurturing in a way that I cannot provide for myself, she can instill in me a sense of purpose. Men are built to provide and protect women and family. This gives them a reason to strive and a reason to work hard because they have someone to make these sacrifices for. If she chooses the man she is saying he is important enough that she wants and that she trusts in his value enough that she thinks he will pass on the best of himself to her offspring (that's a very big deal). So yes femininity is desired, doesn't mean she can't like masculine things, but it does mean that she will have a certain outlook and a certain behavior that can only be done by women.
@hellionthesagereborn I don't know if it is just me or many women, but I have always hoped to be the women you describe and have a man appreciate those qualities in me, but the guys in my life seemed to have always been not appreciative of my feminine qualities. In my heart I do want a man to be a protector for my family and want to feel feminine, but the world seems to be more interested in more masculine traits in a women and after years, I just don't feel happy. So that is what makes me scared of men in terms of letting my heart out but honestly a man who loves me is all I ever wanted :'(
@DiyaRoseBud You can thank modern society for that (and in my opinion (not trying to start a fight) feminism). It tells women to act like men, for men to hate feminine women, for women to hate masculine men etc. etc. The best thing to do is find a traditional guy (they usually however run in two circles, either conservatives (traditional by nature) or Christian/religious. For the record I understand your feelings, I am a traditional man and want a woman with traditional values but that is near impossible in this society it seems (their seems to be quite a few women who claim to not need a man (even as they live in a society built and maintained by men) or who try to sleep around or be career oriented etc. Its quite disappointing. To make matters worse society doesn't help as it makes it harder and harder for men to be providers (we are pushed out of schools and once women entered the work force the government doubled taxes and basically need women to keep working in order to maintain their current tax revenue. The problem is that means its no longer possible for a man to work one job and still provide for his family like in the past (because again, higher taxes, higher cost of living/housing, more competition in the job market, etc.). Its frustrating and scary (like I said I'm with you on that, I am not getting younger but I can't seem to find a woman that is feminine and holds those traditional values and I'm not one to do the whole friends with benefits thing, I want quality and I won't settle for less. But again, I understand what your going through, hopefully you can find that guy.
@hellionthesagereborn Thank you and I appreciate the honesty in your answer. Strange that if I heard this in my twenties I would have probably fought with you, BUT getting older has made me realize that the situation is so different to what I was lead to believe in school. My school days were filled with slogans telling girls to be everything and anything except "motherhood". Thanks for understanding my feelings as I speak from my heart. I know and sometimes when i hear that I just feel depressed. As a women, I can honestly say that I really do want and need a man in my life. I have a good job and career like just like what I was told to do and initially the freedom was great, but now I come home to an empty house everyday. In my country I find so many single people now and I wonder what might happen in the future. You're right its scary and frustrating. After years of being in a work environment I feel like I've lost my own femininity. I hope that Men and Women will come to understand that we need each other and more important than equality is actually "harmony" between the two. However if i may disagree politely on the issue of work. I do also feel as a women that I want to work for a while probably before my kids come (but I understand your point). Anyway, i will keep looking maybe a miracle will happen. I hope you will get to find your lady and have a lovely family.
@DiyaRoseBud That's the great tragedy of this, people don't realize this until they are significantly older and by that point they feel like they are running out of time (I do all the time (I want a good woman, I want a family but every year that doesn't happen is one year less I have to be with said family, one year less to spend with my future child etc. Its really heart breaking to be honest)) and its not a good place to be. As for work, I am not against it per say, I'm against the fact that our system has set things up that women HAVE to work rather then can work if they want (which is actually how it use to be (again women are constantly told otherwise but that is incorrect). I would say when children are young one parent should stay home (generally it makes sense for the mother to be the one because breast feeding and her being out of work just from the whole giving birth and recovery needed for that but obviously what ever works for the couple) for at least the first five years (or have very minimal work). From what I have heard (and I've not looked to into this so consider that) the first seven years is when children bond the most and its been suggested that the "rebellious phase" is actually due to a lack of this bonding (the idea being that since they had the babysitter, then teachers, why should the child see you as the authority when their are so many other authorities around). But again, my issue is that its no longer an option on the table for a parent to stay home with their child rather then them having to or being expected to (I all about the individual, they should be able to do as they see fit, its their life and family after all). But yeah, hang in their hopefully things will work.
@hellionthesagereborn Indeed that is the great tragedy. I just wish people where honest to me when I was younger. I can only imagine what it feels like as a guy your age. I often have those feelings too. That's true... I was told so much about "women" and how we should do and feel as we want but that in reality it often comes with a pinch of salt. I agree on the parent staying at home... I remember reading somewhere that kids that have parental attention at home perform much better in life too. I feel sad that so many today don't understand that harmony has to be there between the sexes and its not just about "me or I" but rather "we and us".
"But yeah, hang in their hopefully things will work." - means a great deal to me. thank you.
Would you mind if I messaged you privately. If not I understand.
@AmandaYVR Wow. Thank you for the kind words. I don't even know what to say honestly. I just spoke from my heart. Not sure if my answer would help as I think guys would be better suited to talk about femininity.
@DiyaRoseBud No, everybody is welcome and your opinion is very valid. When people speak from their heart, and not from preconceived 'ideas', philosophical ideologies which may or may not be skewed or influenced by other factors... from the heart can make an impact, can really touch people and perhaps even invoke some change. So many people have a hard time showing true vulnerabiity. They've been hurt before, and it becomes a defence mechanism. Yes, it protects, but it also closes a person down so they are less likely to really experience true connection. I love what you said. I could base a question just on this. Please post it again, separately. Paste them together.
@AmandaYVR You just expressed exactly how my heart feels. That "true vulnerability" is REALLY HOW I HAVE WANTED TO FEEL FOR SO LONG but I have covered it up in fear of men and it has shut out so many experiences that could have been amazing. Ok, no problem. I will copy and paste again.
@DiyaRoseBud Go for it! I've no problem with it (talking is what this site is for after all). And I couldn't agree more about the need for harmony (that's what it use to be all about).
What is femininity? An allure to captivate or an ability to hold oneself how she feels about herself. Glamour, goth, emo, punk rock, etc and not care about what others want. A weakness? No the strength to out due and to deny society to tell her what to do. This is what catches men especially those who follow a standard of living. It doesn't matter what era they can overcome the most treacherous life not because they want to but because it has to be done. A woman can see who truly is worth the time and effort and chooses that person to be with not because of the present accomplishments but of those yet to come. To handle yourself in a manner that is sharp and professional and to pick yourself up even from the most deadly hardships. She may put on makeup and wear extravagant clothes but we all forget that to her it is war paint and her armor in and unforgiving world. We offer to put our coats in the puddles not to help her save her shoes but to honor her as a person who throughout time must stand up and fall only to stand up again. Femininity is woman, a person who can beat the odds out of her own will.
Lots of answers, ideas and pictures. I just like HER, for HER, as she is. Yeah, some are really shy, and unsure, but there is something that makes me like her; another is assertive, and aggressive, and I like that too, if I like who she is, and we relate! For me, it is all about how we connect, and if we share something in common! i don't care if she likes wearing any particular thing, or make-up, or any of those things. Labels are just bullshit!! It is the person, and how you connect, that is so much more important. For formal affairs, yes, I do like seeing her wearing an elegant dress, and her hair in a special braid that she knows I LOVE! She likes me in a suit, tie, and my beard trimmed, oh, and polished shoes!! Shoes seem so important to women!! :) :)
To me, strictly my feelings comcerning a girl who is feminine, ...
1) the way she carries herself: not that of a helpless individual that need to depend on a man, but one who is self sufficient, yet choose to become his "prize".
E. g. Japanese traditional girl. Very feminine in behaviour.
2) the way she dresses. Not slutty nor overly extravagant. But dresses up to express herself as a mature woman, yet with dignity and confidence.
E. g. Chinese girl in their traditional 旗袍 (qi pao)
3) although she is a professional in similar fields as guys, she knows everything about home management and child rearing. She cooks great dishes and knows how to bring her young to useful adults.
E. g. the Iban women of Sarawak. Wonderful and homely girls that never let men into their kitchen. Yet are Doctors and Architect by profession.
These, drools a man. Definitely my type of a feminine girl.
Grace Kelly stood out to me in those pics. It's feminine presence... nurturing, caring, giving... with confidence and stature that says she isn't a push over. That draws me like a fly to a big juicy watermelon. Come to think of it... an embryo and a sperm... about the same proportions...
If femininity is described as weakness, I'm about done with the world. Femininity is strength in certain aspects, and those aspects I appreciate. Weakness is not attractive. The strength to be reliant is.
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