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First, he got me pregnant and didn’t want to discuss about the topic. The first thing he asked was where to get the abortion. When he found out I might keep it became angry. He said really selfish and inconsiderate things to me like I will resent you if you let the kid born…I don’t want a beeping child…etc. Lucky for him that I got a miscarriage, and he was just so relieved from that he doesn’t care about my physical health. He then realized how big of jerk he was, apologized, and give him time to fix things.

Not long after, he randomly came to me and told me his friend paid flights/hotel to do some crazy adventure by himself for the weekend…an example, like purposely sleep near people with covid. We live together and he didn’t discuss with me at all. His friends didn’t just randomly did that…they asked him of he’s down and he just said yes excitedly. He purposely didn’t tell me on my birthday because he knew I would be upset. He decided to tell me today. I obviously got upset about it. I did tell him that everything adds up, and this would really add another damage to our relationship. How inconsiderate and selfish can you be for not even discussing this with me…and just do it. He understands and that it makes sense that I’m upset. But, He won’t back down and basically saying he will go. He value his friendship with his friend and cannot be disrespectful to this free trip. He does have the option to pay his friend back…but he rather go have fun and fix the relationship after. It’s very hard to say this but he rather me be upset, damaging the relationship, and go have his weekend. He also lied that his friends bought it without asking the dates. He actually told his friend which exact date.

Then he tried to play it cool and told me to just let this go and suck it up. And that this is only happening because of the pregnancy and miscarriage thing. On top of everything, he missed my dad’s birthday claiming he got the dates mixed up.

I used to argue with my mother too much about my then boyfriend. She once said ''I hate his guts, if you ever marry him, I'll just fake it, I hate him'' and I didn't know why she was being that hateful. I've spent years trying to prove her wrong, trying to focus on his good qualities. At some point she stop arguing and pretended to be nice, be a hypocrite basically and he noticed it.

End-results:
Everything came to light and yes he was a real bad person from the beginning. He turned out to be worse than my mother's version. I found out elsewhere and on a private conversation that he wanted my parents somehow evicted, to get them to put me on their will soon so he can take over 1/2 of the property. That's one of the many things I found out about him; the others is just as bad.

Unlike the few successful stories of how you were able to prove your parents wrong would you call this a sad ending? Here I am... wasting years of my time trying to get my mother to see the good in him... only to find out he really horrible.