Is it normal to feel uncomfortable about your boyfriend going clubbing without you?

[Anonymous]

I went clubbing the other weekend just with my own friends and ended up leaving feeling absolutely horrible. It seemed like a singles haven and I felt completely out of place. All night I was inundated by guys wanting my number or wanting to buy me drinks and it made me uncomfortable as hell. After that experience it’s now made me concerned for when my boyfriend goes out by himself because I just don’t feel that’s the atmosphere for people in monogamous relationships to be in (unless they’re together on the night.) of course I want him to have his freedom and go out and do what he wants with his friends but I can help but feel deeply uncomfortable by the whole atmosphere. The fact he’s so keen on being in that highly alcoholic, girls with no clothes on atmosphere also concerns me. I’m not so much the clubbing type myself and only got dragged out last occasion for a friends birthday!

[CuriousJC]

Well it depends on the person. If you're in a difficult relationship or having a difficult time while being in a relationship is best to give the man or the woman his or her space at the time and just go somewhere to pull your head off. When I was having problems with my girlfriend I just went to the nearest bar there was people dancing and I just had five beers and I eventually just forgot about what I was arguing with her. I even surprised her with a gift told her I was sorry and I just hold her until she told me to let go

[Anonymous]

This post shows you have zero trust in this guy and if you don’t have any trust in him and you can’t trust him going to a nightclub without thinking he is going to hook up with another girl than he is better off finding a girl who will have complete trust in him and won’t have any concerns

look at actor Jason Momoa one of the biggest flirts in the world he has even shown at times how big his D is and he often goes shirtless and post those shirtless videos on his Instagram account there has even been a couple of times he has posted videos which you can clearly see he is butt naked yet even though he is a big flirt and tease he has remained faithful to his wife Lisa Bonet the entire time he has never cheated on her

[Paris13]

It depends on His Love for You. Taken guys Still Go Clubbing with Friends and Many Behave and the other Plenty don't. I would Not Care for it. Nor for Myself. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xx

[boggboss]

So here is the thing the dynamic of guys going out and girls going out is differnt women will get approached when out if u are not with a guy whilst a guy tends to have to approach a girl for somthing to happen I have been in a 5 year relationship with my girl and gone out clubbing with friends a couple times where she couldn't make it which is absolutely fine as she trusts I wouldn't cheat I'm not there looking to make friends or fishing for women just some good old shit talking with friends poor dancing and a few drinks even if my friends are looking to find girls it dont mean I need too it comes down too do u trust him not to cheat

[GreekFlames]

This is it. Its totally different for males vs females at clubs because females will get approached and males won't (unless it's a gay club)

[ThumbJack]

Communicate.

Healthy communication keeps couple together.

Talk about your feelings, insecurities, and boundaries.

Try to hear each other out honestly and openly without judging or attacking.

Maybe he does like being naughty. Maybe he just likes his friends and they are naughty. Talk about it and see if this relationship is working and can continue to work. This isn’t just about feeling insecure. There’s a reason the insecurity is there and couples should try to fix it otherwise reoccurring arguments happen and nobody’s happy.

[Tyrael]

Guys in general have a very different experience from girls when it comes to clubbing. Guys don't get hit on constantly or have girls lining up to buy them drinks.

I can assure you it's not the girls in the club you need to worry about. So long as you can trust your man, then it's all good.

[qwert1234]

If you don't trust him, it's normal.
If you are insecure, it's normal.
If he had a history of flirting with others while you are together, it's normal.

Bottom line is, for me, if you are feeling uncomfortable about your boyfriend going to social places, it's not always negative. It probably means that you don't trust him fully yet.

[ImmortalHanma]

I went clubbing with my friends and they hated it because I just talked women’s ears off about how my girlfriend was my best friend and a great mom and she was so cool and funny and clever and showing them pictures of our little girl (they hate taking me to the club but I’m a good wing man for them I’ve been since middle school)

[exitseven]

He wants to be with his friends and his friends want to go to a club. Trust him until he gives you a reason not to.

[Anonymous]

Clubbing is an activity for finding hookups; so yes.

[shayes904]

Yes. That seems normal.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, especially if there is no trust.

[noohair]

Yes, it sucks.