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I am 22 and he is 29. I met this man a while ago and we instantly had a connection. It wasn’t romantic at first because we had many mutual friends. But somehow we started hanging out more and I realized that I was in fact interested in him in the beginning but was trying to block those feelings after finding out that he is married (I didn’t really notice the ring at first but rather around the second time we met with mutual friends).
We live in different cities but he calls me every single day and we find it so easy to talk and I feel as if I’ve known him for a long time.
He has been telling me about his problems with his wife, they have been married for nearly 9 year and says that every single day it gets worse and worse and their relationship is deteriorating so he thinks that people live only once and should be with those that you love. He says he will never forget his children and will always be a fatherly figure for them and support his wife and family financially and in whatever other we he can but he wants to “wake up with me and be with me”. This morning he txted me very early and said: I am so confused. I love my children so much and will never leave them because I know she will never let me see them again. I don’t want to be the man that dumps his kids.
This text freaked me out and
I feel terrible. I was never the initiator of our relationship, and I knew from the beginning that a married man is a no go zone. I don’t love or have an interest for many men. And it disappoints me that the man that has found a place in my heart is married. I don’t want to break his family. I know our mutual friends will hate me and because we have many- I will probably be hated and I told him that and he said: well we only live once and I want to follow my heart.
Help. I don’t know what to do and am confused and feel terrible and want to drop all this immediately but it is so hard. Has anyone been in this situation?

Okay so yesterday I got a postcard for Mom and she said that she may be in town sometime this month. I don't know if I should be excited or not because I don't know. We seem to see things a lot differently. My brother's especially my younger older brother are not pleased with it. They told me not to get my hopes up too quickly because she might not come or end up not showing up. Nick my younger older brother doesn't seem to care or isn't interested. He was like, "Who the hell cares? I'm going to be late for my date with my girl." Everytime I mention mom he always seems to interrupt or cut me off. He just doesn't like her and he's not even interested. He hates her with the passion because she abandoned us and dumped us. I mean I understand that too and we're all angry at her but don't you think you should give her a chance. My oldest brother told me that I can't make him like her or be interested because he has the right to how he feels. He's not even sure if he wants to see her. Maybe Mom wants to reconnect with us again cuz I really want to connect with my mom so bad and have a mother. I showed my dad the postcard and he told me that I shouldn't believe her at all because she might be lying and she'll just abandoned us again. He keeps reminding me to not get my hopes up cuz I'm going to end up disappointed. I mean yes when I visited Mom in England when I wanted to live with her, she seemed happy to see me but towards the middle of the week, she seems very irritated when I'm around, she stood me up for dinner and I waited for her for 3 hours and she told me the real truth why they left the family which I don't want to go into details. I mean she wanted to have her own life. I mean she stood me up before and broke promises. She never even made it to any of my birthdays are sent us cards or never called us on our birthdays. I'm excited to see my mommy but should I?

I'm not even going to sugarcoat how I feel. Ever since I was about 9 years old I hate Mother's Day with a passion because my mom left us because she wanted to have a life of her own and she didn't want to deal with me because I have a disability (Autism). I didn't have much of a mother growing up. I would look at my friend's with their mothers with envy and jealously. I would pretend that their moms were mine to fill that empty hole in my heart. I remember most of my classmates would make gifts for their mothers and I was the only one that didn't get to make one for my mom and I will sit there and being very sad and jealous. Like in third grade my teacher saw me and she knew I didn't have my mother around and she didn't say anything to me so she kept helping the other kids. She told me this is Mother's Day and I should sit this one out because my mom isn't really in my life. When I send my mom gifts she never once called and said thank you to me. My brothers never send her anything because they said she doesn't deserve it and said I need to stop. My youngest older brother said bluntly, "Why bother sending her Mother's Day gifts when SHE was the one the dumped us and left us and dad heartbroken? She is no mother to us. She is our mother but not our MOM. Let go already and move on! We have our aunts. Give your gifts to our aunt. She has been more of a mother to us then our cowardly, selfish, flaky mother. Stop pushing her away and she isn't going ANYWHERE. She loves us so much and she especially loves you to death." Can anybody relate to me?
I just can't let go of my mom. I need her but she keeps pushing me away and break promises.