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I get that you've been together for 4 years and that you love him, but any man that can even think of doing something like that, is someone you should stay FAR away from. Don't get it wrong, the second time was rape too. You were raped twice.111
Starting a fight with your boyfriend doesn't give him the reason to be violent to you. All that happend is not your fault. You must leave him, because nothing good can come out of ir. You will always resent him for what he did to you. But you should be careful with the situation because now, you can never knoe what his reaction is going to be after you tell him you're leaving him. Sorry you had to go through all of this10
That does not sound like a happy relationship, he forced himself on you and raped you. Sometimes you have to leave the people you love just to save yourself. If you forgive him and he rapes you again he is going to think "Oh i raped her before and she forgave me so i will do it again"10
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You need to report him immediately to the police. He raped you, and he can easily do it again. He came in you as well so you could become pregnant. Do you want to have a baby with a man who will rape you?
Girl, think straight. A lot of women make the mistake of staying with their rapist boyfriend because it’s easier. Please please do the right thing and get his ass reported. My ex raped me too and I will always regret doing nothing because he’s still out there free to do it to someone else.
Again, don’t stay with a man like him. Even if he’s sorry, to me that is unforgivable and I’m sorry to say that a relationship can’t move on in a healthy state after something like that.21
A similar thing happened to me with a 3-y r relationship. We were “growing apart”. I was starting to talk to a new guy I wanted to date. I think my boyfriend could sense that I was “slipping away” / becoming distant. One weekend I hinted that I didn’t think we were as compatible as we once thought we were. That night, in the middle of the night (I was staying at his place), he suddenly pinned me to the bed with all his weight (he’s way bigger than me), pulled off my underwear, and raped me. I was struggling and yelling at him to “get the fk off”. Long story short, I never saw him again (took off at first light the next morning) and we broke up. we have never spoken again. In hindsight, the signs were there (for me): he was Uber domineering, always trying to make all the decisions, he’d frequently grab me by the neck or hair, push me around, “spank” me, pull me into his lap, grope me in public - all done “playfully”, of course - and he was very aggressive in the bedroom. But there had never so clearly been a “crossing of the line” as this night. You should break it off (in my opinion) and then you might want to seriously review: was there really NO SIGNS AT ALL that he might be the type to feel justified in “punishing” and controlling you? That he saw you as a possession? This kind of behavior usually isn’t completely out of the blue.0
Everyone is pretty much telling you the best course of action, what to do, etc, so I'm just gonna say my opinion
It's that it's a super toxic relationship, I'm surprised y'all have been together 4 years, it sounds like a story of a two month relationship where the guy was fed up of not getting laid so he forced it
But 4 years? What kind of relationship is that? Like is that the first time y'all had sex? I can see why he snapped if so, he spent 4 years of his life and you're just gonna leave him, like sex is relatable to self worth as a man. If not, then the whole situation is fucked up, period. I would get out of it ASAP.6
Gurl. Your man has anger issues and he obvi can’t control himself but you also gotta think he never would have done that if you were stronger than him so he either needs to see a psychologist or you need to leave for your own safety20
This is wrong in so many ways. I hope you leave him and never have to see him again. Dont let him guilt you or manipulate you into taking him back. He has issues and you dont deserve that and he does not deserve you or your forgiveness. Be strong.10
omg , leave immediately and report the matter.
I know you may feel hurt and embarrassed but doing those two things is for the best.10
If a girl hit me or assaulted me in any way, no matter what the circumstances, I would leave her at once. There would be no going back for me into such a relationship.10
If this is an actual case of rape you need to report it, if you can't do that than at least break things off with him as it probably isn't safe for you anymore0
yeah it will only get worse black eyes busted ribs are on the way if you stay seen it a million times. good luck your gonna need it.10
yeah clearly if a guy hits your face and rapes you that's when you know he's the one... also you should probably see a therapist about your issues as well but cutting him off should be for damn sure.14
What you need to do is report him to the police.10
You should be filing charges14
I would report him , get the police involved …..10
how many times do you plan to post this question, liar?12
And call the cops13
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Well now... This is fucked up first of all. Yeah he may feel bad or whatever, but this guy allowed himself to be pushed to these actions by you...
Secondly though, what were you doing to push him that far? My hunch is threatening to leave him and be with someone else. I'm not condoning what he did, I'm just pointing out why he did it... and guess what it's the same reason many guys resort to physical abuse or emotional abuse... control and power.
Instead of accepting that maybe you do want to leave and be with someone else, he resorted to control tactics. You gotta ask yourself if you do want to leave and be with someone else, and if not, why would you be threatening that? Then ask yourself if you're happy with a guy that will rape you at that level of confrontation... a guy that is trying to trap you with a baby (another power move that even women use a lot of the time)?
What I know for sure is this dude is driven to keep you from leaving and being with someone else, to the point of criminal activity directed at you yourself. You happy with that shit? I doubt it... and I'd bet money there are plenty of reasons you were in his face saying you want to leave and be with someone else to begin with.
Your choices are clear, let him trap you, or let this be a justified addition to your reasons of wanting to leave him and be with someone else.
No I don't want that. If that's who he becomes every time he thinks about losing me then I'll pass. I don't want to be a prisoner in my relationship and that's what he made me feel like a nothing tortured prisoner in my own body. It's just going to get worse like someone said. I'm just scared because I don't believe in abortion and he knew that and now I'm going to be possibly raising a kid on my own with a crap dad like my mom did and that was my worst fear
If a kid happens... I'm not sure what is done if you live outside of the U. S., but here in the U. S. there are plenty of women trying to get pregnant just for the free ride it provides. Child support, funded by the state if Dad can't pay. But that is 'if a kid happens,' only then and when that becomes reality then plan to deal with it.
For now though you got a guy trying to trap you, in a very crude way, and I believe you're right... it's only going to get worse than that over time. I mean there's one off circumstances, like a slap or a push... but god damn he fucking raped you after the slaps (I would say both times was rape), that's just way over the top. You gotta get out of that situation before you worry about a 'maybe baby' that might not even happen. First thing is first if you know what I'm saying.
You are right thank you