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When I have a first date with a lady, I may get a haircut in advance. I make reservations at a very nice restaurant. I clean out my car, wash and vacuum it, and do a general detailing. If the date is on a Friday night and I am coming from work, I am wearing a suit and tie. On Saturday night, I wear "business casual" attire and I will occasionally purchase a new shirt or new pants for the occasion. I am well groomed and I apply a SMALL amount of after shave. On the date, my chivalrous manners are out in force. I open doors for her, help her get seated, and I was attentive to her.

Why do I do all of this? It makes a statement to my date: this guy takes dating seriously, he wants to make a good impression on me, and he will treat me nicely if I get into a relationship with him. Yes, I know that many guys on this site will say that this is WAY too much effort and I am making myself subservient to her by "sucking up" so openly. That is not true. I make it clear to a woman that while I am willing to treat her like a queen, I will expect her to treat me like a king.

The women I date have a similar attitude about dating and, in particular, a first date. They arrive for the date dressed very nicely, very nicely groomed, and it is obvious that they, too, want to make a good impression. This is how my generation dates.

I could go the casual route but I fear that my date might think that none of this is a very big deal for me or maybe I am one of those guys who is afraid to show any signs of caring at all. I think that is a horrible impression to give on a first date.

How do you approach a first date?

So though I've known my girlfriend for a long time, it was only a couple of days ago we went on a real date together.

If it matters, we live in Florida, aka, where it's hot as fuck.

Before going on the date, she said, "Look, I'll be wearing my prettiest dress, but please, don't wear a suit or long pants thinking you gotta be professional, honey. You'll just make me nervous, seeing you wear such clothing in this crazy hot weather. I want you to be comfy, okay? Just shorts will do fine, you've got great legs, too."

And I felt happy upon hearing this, but when we actually began the date, I felt kind of out of place compared to her.

She wasn't dressed formal, by any means. It was a revealing dress that showed a lot of her skin, especially the legs.

But it felt too pretty compared to my t-shirt and shorts, lol.

But under the table she began rubbing her bare legs on my bare legs, which couldn't happen if I had on long pants, so that was nice, lol.

My girlfriend insisted I looked great and that all was fine, but I couldn't help shake the feeling, lol.

My girlfriend said she just put on the dress in 10 seconds, and from there just did her hair and went out... but she still looked so pretty, lol.