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Whenever I was dealing with problems with women my friends usually told me to act stoic, tough or I like I don’t give a shit (usually good advice). Confront the problem directly/quickly and then back off and do my thing. This often includes just not contacting her if she’s being unfair.

However a few have chastised me if I was acting douchy in my youth. I did have one friend chew me out in one of the rare moments I was in the wrong and he witnessed it. Again it was a very rare incident.

Anyway guys really don’t like to hear other guys bitch too much (in person) about women. Although it’s often healthy and necessary but the act itself can come off as feminine if it happens too much.

However I’ve noticed that women usually have a more tainted lens and assume the worst about the other guy when they give advice to women. Some of this is just natural given the loyalty/protectiveness they have for other women. This is also at times justified. Sometimes the other guy really is being a dbag and the girl shouldn’t tolerate it.

However women sometimes give tainted advice as way to get revenge on a 3rd party guy because they themselves were hurt by an unrelated incident at some point. As if seeing a friend being bitchy to another guy it’s somehow “evening the score” by proxy. Or they might even do this out of secret jealousy. They would feel better if their friend was single/lonely since they are unhappy with their own predicament. They would encourage a break up.

Thoughts?

I've been dealing with serious mental health problems for years now. I said on G@G that I was making the appointment with the psychiatrist almost a month ago, but that never happened.

Within that month over a dozen times I would get to the website of my local mental health clinic and go to the schedule appointment page and try to fill it out, but then I bitch out. I'm still being held back by fear. I have thoughts of them not taking me seriously, accusing me of faking it, getting mad at me, making my illness worse, getting me hooked on drugs, taking away my rights, having to live with the stigma of being mentally ill, etc. All these thoughts race through my head and I end up clicking out of the page, then I feel so guilty. I tell people on G@G all the time I'm finally getting help, I'm finally getting help, I'm finally getting help, I'm finally getting help, but can never send my info to schedule the appointment. There's also been trouble with money and couldn't afford the co pay, there's been trouble with transportation with the weather and not having a ride, and not I'm under self quarantine due to COVID-19. I haven't given up on making that appointment, if anything I'm just not mentally ready, but yet I need it.

Is what I'm going through normal?
Do people usually delay their appointments?
Are my excuses valid?
Should I feel guilty about this?