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I have suspected this for a while that we are just plain the dumber sex. I don't want to fabricate an elaborate explanation for it. All I've truly got is the thought that we are just dumb.

As a whole many of us keep falling for guys who string us along emotionally and dangle that carrot in front of our face. Even when we technically know he's fooling us, we are prone to taking that bait and munching down. I feel like we are often willing to take whatever is offered to us.

For instance I am in an emotional harem (i do not fornicate but maybe the other girls are or are willing to fuck him) with a guy and these other women at work. I was the first girl he took so i got to see him finesse the other two. I dont think he even tried hard especially with the last one. Some girls are easier though.

But anyway, this is a man who told me he used to have girls wanting him at the same time and insinuated that having mutiple wives is ok and normal. Clearly he would be into that.

Oh did i mention he has a girlfriend? She probably doesn't know about his harem but he told me that she knows he flirts and its ok because they trust each other. But this is the same man who wants to fuck me for almost a year now.

My boyfriend and I are in a kind of open relationship. We are dating each other, I live in his home, I go to family events, we are extremely close. We have an adventures sex life and I kinda like sharing. Before the pandemic the idea was to experiment this with other girls we meet at bars or tinder and such. Unfortunately, the pandemic kind of ruined that. Eventually it came up that he wanted to sleep with his ex-girlfriend we will call her... Patricia. I was okay with just sex- I’m confident in my relationship, and myself to put aside that because I was actually okay with it. Well lately Patricia and him aren’t just having sex anymore. They go out to dinner, they drive around and “talk”, they hangout. Yes he says he tells me before they do anything but he works for himself which means he has spare time quite often. I don’t want to seem like the insecure, jealous girlfriend. I don’t want to be clinging on to him or seem needy. I want to be confident in myself and my relationship. Previously when I learned about this I made a comment like “seems more than just sex.” His response was “yeah, we are friend.. I can have friends right?”.

Is this wrong of me to be feeling like no you can’t. Like I feel like he has more freedom then anyone else but wants to “hang out and be friends with her”. I am jealous and I am scared. Should I mention this to him? Is it wrong of me to not want him to be friends with her? How/what should I say?