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Just out of curiosity, but I noticed that women these days seem to have no standards, and the few of us who do are written off as gold diggers or snobs in an effort to make us lower our standards.

Like for instance, if a woman wanted to wait say 6 months to a year to have sex, most men are not going to put in the effort to be with that women because other women are much more willing to open their legs. Why wait 6 months for one when you can have multiple within the span of a few days?

Or if a woman wants a man to make a certain amount of money, she's a gold digger. I know for me, I would want a man to make at least what I make because I do not want to be taking care of a grown ass man. However, I've been called a gold digger because of this (which is dumb. I'm a teacher and make less than $45,000 a year). Yet I know many women who are married, but their husbands make half of what they make, and the men like it because the responsibility of providing isn't really on their shoulders.

I had a friend who struggles in the area of looks, too. She's about average build and pretty, but men seem to only want thin white women. However, these guys are often overweight themselves and do not necessarily take care of themselves. But women are so desperate to want a man that they'll accept it. However, she and I both know that if she wanted a body builder guy then she'd be considered ridiculous.

Or the latest argument is women should pay for themselves on a date instead of the man paying. Not saying men should always pay, but for some reason women do not require guys to pay on the first date anymore. Women who do are seen as shallow.


These things weren't really even issue up until maybe 15 years ago.


So do you think that if women as a whole brought back standards that men would put more effort into dating?

I am Asian and I took my husband's (who is Irish/Italian/German) last name but I do not identify as Irish (yes it is one of the most common last names.

My daughter looks totally like me. She looks only Asian. But she identifies with being Caucasian. I kind of feel sad for her, I don't know what to think. She likes only dolls with blue eyes and blonde hair. She likes to dress up as Elsa. She wants to and prefers to only be friends with girls who look like blond hair and blue eyes. I bought her a doll with black hair, tan skins and she will not play with it much. Her aunt bought her a black hair, black eyed doll, she won't play with it. At the store I found two barbie dolls, one is brown hair brown eyes and the other blue eyes blonde hair and she chose the blue eyed one. Her aunt (my husband's sister) has blue eyes and blonde hair, her kids all have blonde hair and blue eyes. She doesn't look like them. Is it ok for her to identify as Caucasian?

My friends tell me it''s ok. They said that there are men who identify as "women" and guys to identify as "kids" (someone who is 40 and identifies as a 10 year old)... so why not? and women who identify as men...