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My aunt was raised with overprotective parents. They wouldn't even let her sleepover not even with a female friend. She would secretly date her HS sweetheart. Her uncle caught them making out once and made a big scene, dragging her all the way home, yelling about how that's not how young ladies behave, told her parents about it, etc. She got banned from seeing her boyfriend. Her parents were too focused on her waiting till marriage, never drinking nor smoking, that type of upbringing.

Result:
She didn't wait till marriage.
Her HS sweetheart wasn't her first and only boyfriend ever.
She was into parties for a bit as an adult, enjoying the freedom she never had.
She married her 4th boyfriend, a very liberal man.

Liberal/permissive style
She and her husband only had a daughter and she was raised in the liberal manner. She was allowed to go on camping trips and excursions (far from home) with friends, went out on a date at the age of 14 for the first time, didn't have a curfew and at the age of 16 got lectured about safe sex. My aunt didn't want to make the same mistake her family did to her.

Result:
She got pregnant at the age of 18 with her 3rd boyfriend.
Her ex boyfriend still pays child support and is in contact with the child often.
She's now 27, married with another guy and they have 2 kids.
My aunt and her husband thinks they exceeded on her liberalism.

Obviously neither extreme is good but which do you think is worse? Overprotective or very liberal parents?

so recently, i've been talking to someone and we hit it off really well. He lives in LA and i live in Singapore so there's a time difference but when we talked, i told him to sleep but he'd say things like "but i'd be losing time not talking to you". we also always give and get good morning and good night texts from each other. we even made plans, he called it "our bucket list" which was really sweet. then suddenly the next week, we talked less and good morning and good night text stopped. what's weird is that on instagram he'd drop answers on my questions section saying "heyy, i hope you're good, you know i have a lot of love for you" and he would comment really sweet things. on my youtube channel he left 2 paragraphs on 2 different videos to remind me of how great i am but he just doesn't message me directly. i asked my friends and she told me that if he was a player he wouldn't have bothered making 'contact' for this long and would not have bothered writing paragraphs for me. when i double text him or text him first he does reply but i never know when he's not going to reply. He's really passionate with his career right now so i don't know if its that i need to give him time or that he's just not interested anymore. please help out here, i 'm really confused