Should I give him and our relationship a chance?

Anonymous

I was already giving up on love and finding a man who is compatible to my unique personality by the time this guy texted me over a dating app. We clicked instantly and so well that I remember jokingly asking him: so yeah what's the catch? You're too good to be real and you're very different then anyone else I ever met! Anyway, we exchanged contacts and I then asked him his last name to store his number and he immediately brushed it away. So I thought to myself maybe it is too soon and I will ask him again when we get closer with time.

We continue falling for each other and liking each other. I told him upfront I don't believe in sex before marriage and he was cool with it. Then one day I ask him again about his last name and this time he says okay but first tell me that you want to be with me. I thought that was strange! and my answer was that I do like you and I'm intrigued by you. But he was persistent and asked but you want to pursue something serious with? to which I said of course. I was nervous but felt there was no other answer that I could of gave because I do like him it is just I take time to develop that kind of commitment and love. Then he goes on giving me his full name and all his social media accounts. He follow it by saying that he is so happy that he has finally found me and that he was waiting for so long for me. He said every thing within him is telling him I'm his one and he has a strong feelings about me. I said how do you know that already? he answered because I know myself well enough and I know how I feel about you. for a while I didn't do anything with the name and we continue on with our relationship.

I then started searching and I found out that he is extremely wealthy and an owner of multiple businesses. Real estate, clubs, production and event management companies, and many more. I came to find out that his entire family is influential and wealthy. That all was alright as I understand now why he didn't want to share his last name with me initially. I didn't change and I never asked him anything financially. In a matter of fact I never brought up any of my findings about his wealth or family to him in any of our conversations. As I am doing okay financially and I got my own house, car and live comfortably. So I didn't care about that.

But then yesterday I found something else. I found out that his lifestyle is extremely different than anything I thought I can handle. He hosts a lot of famous singers, rappers, DJs where people party and drink all night. I don't drink, I don't use social media not even Facebook. I don't watch TV either. So I was completely off the grid. He admired that about me but now I am in shock and I'm doubting if I can handle his life style. I am not that type of a girl and I don't even party or go clubbing. I read books and I am highly educated. I consider attending opera and admiring architecture as intertaiment. And my joy normally found in those private quite moments in some foreign country and in a remote area with one person. I am an introvert and don't have a fast crazy lifestyle. I never had a piercing or a tattoo. Yes, he does have tattoos hidden under his professional look.

I am overwhelmed now. I was never in a situation where I am dealing with a man living this lifestyle. Girls all around and running a club and organizing wild parties. I was never with a person who deals with actresses and singers and travel the world with them because he owns a roduction and an entertainment companies. I am afraid that I just dont fit to all of that. I am afraid that I will be having so many of these lonely nights while he engages in this industry traveling and drinking. I dont want to end up being heart broken or cheated on. I am a simple girl living a very sime life. And didn't notice all this because for months now apparently since end of last year his grandma who raised him passed away and then the virus happened. So between greif and lockdown he didn't really engage in any of those activities and that's when we met!

I still didn't say anything to him. I like him as a person and I don't want him to change or give up anything for me. But I don't want to change either. I don't even know how to go about it without making it sound crazy. Should I just silently and with dignity leave him without causing pain by continuing this relationship? I feel so discouraged now as my family is religiousaand conservative and would definitely not accept his tattoos and lifestyle.

Sorry for the rant I just wanted to let it all out and off my chest šŸ„€šŸ˜”

Should I give him and our relationship a chance?
Should I give him and our relationship a chance?
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