How You Know He's The Right Guy

[Anonymous]

I'm not going to bore you with an intro, here are ways to know he's the right guy.

1) He cares about what you care about, a lot

There's something very special about a guy that cares about what interests you. You want him to be the guy that never misses your soccer game or encourages your music dream or pushes you to go after whatever your dreams are. He cares.

2) You can communicate with eye contact

When you're with a group of people and someone says something stupid or funny, who do you look to? The right guy is the one you can give one look too and they know exactly what you're feeling.

3) He's probably more concered about your health and safety than you are

He's the guy that panics if you bump your head too hard or slip down the stairs (And he's also the guy that laughs when he knows you're okay). He's the guy that takes the food out of the oven every time so you don't burn yourself. And he's the guy that makes sure you're not drinking too much (unless you're trying to out-drink each other, then game on)

4) He respects you like a best friend

You're his best friend, and he's yours.

5) He didn't push for sex, it happened when it happened, when both of you were ready

It wasn't something he tried to convince you to do or made you feel guilty for not doing, it was something you both wanted. Or maybe you're not ready yet, he doesn't mind.

So here are just a few things, hope it was helpful :)

[HookingSwan]

Lol all the imature comments from so called "older than you" guys. Hilarious haha

[coachTanthony]

He's the guy who takes the food out of the oven? I need a drink. LOL

[Steelcore1085]

I'm rooting my own horn, but this is how I act towards my girl (I amazingly have a girlfriend, and I'm surprised she chose me):

1) I care about what she has to say and enjoy listening to her talk about her passions. I know her favorite musician and what she wants to be in the future, and I listen to her

2) I always send her a text telling her "I miss you, babe. Love you lots". That lets her know she's on my mind. And she always is.

3) I care about her and her health, and also about her family. Because who knows, this girl may be my wife someday and I should care about her family.

4) She's the girl I would be more than willing to take a bullet for, that's how important she is to me. I'd put my life on the line for her.

5) I treat her like my equal, even though I realize we won't be truly equal because biology and other shit. But I treat my girl with respect, which she has earned.

6) I'm willing to stand up for her and support her when she's down or needs me. Because isn't that what couples should do?

7) I'm not pushing sexual things into her, because I know that might turn her off. I can have a relationship without sex (but intimacy needs to be there).

8) I make sure that I look like her partner, and not her rug. I don't agree with everything she says and sometimes I'm willing to discuss things with her. But I don't yell at her or insult her. Because that kills the love between you two. Besides, I couldn't treat my girl like shit anyway.

That's just my thought here. Just curious what you think about this.

[AleDeEurope]

#2 is a great indicator. It's been proven that when someone laughs, they look at the person they care/like more from the group.

Nice Take, I agree with all. Obviously there are mire things to consider, but these are true.

P. S.: the couple from the second pic... that's true love xD

[tyber1]

Wait, is there a study that proved that? That could really help me out lol do you have a link?

[AleDeEurope]

@tyber1 I don't have a link, sorry.

[godfatherfan]

number 5 is such bullshit. only young inexperienced women freak out about this.
men are going to want sex. that doesn't mean they don't want you for you.
While dating, I have a rule I don't even say the word sex before she does. I know it has resulted in me getting laid much faster. Typically it is the 3rd date, as that is the sex date. But once it was 1st and once it was 4th. If you hit the 10th date, or 1 month, if it hasn't happened, it isn't going to and you need to move on to someone else. Of course the rules for older, experienced people are different then freaked out teens and young 20 somethings.

[Chief16]

C'mon let's be honest, the right guy just needs these things
1) Infinite bank balance
2) Good looks and big penis

[myTake Owner]

That's what every guy thinks he needs, and that's what makes you the wrong guy.

[Chief16]

Lol no, You sound like this.
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[aliceinwonderland69]

You forgot dominance.
NEVER forget dominance.

[skeptic007]

@aliceinwonderland69
you both are funny lol

[GreatnessRevamped]

You both aren't wrong.

[Nomad69]

Not true I have those things, minus the great hair and I've gotten laid yes but nothing fantastic

[moosette134]

False is so many ways.

[julesabi98]

omg preach. best reply ever

[julesabi98]

i was replying to myTake owner's "That's what every guy thinks he needs, and that's what makes you the wrong guy."

[myTake Owner]

@julesabi98 😂❤️❤️

[Asingh]

Mate im a very rich guy, tall, skinny and faily good looking, i still dont have many girls in my life!

[Nomad69]

@Asingh # Confidence # drugs lol

[Ellaphoebe14]

I had thought that is what guys look for in girls, but with a big bust, instead... Guys would totally go for the rich girl with good looks and assets. Girls are less visual and more into personality.

[skykidx1]

@Ellaphoebe14 I don't know if that's true my ex choice the new guy she know for 2 months over me because he had a car and our parents liked him. mean while I know her for 8 years always been there for her. and I'll admit sometimes I was way too nice and always put her needs before my own which made me look weak. but it's sometime I only did because I known she has been badly hurt in the past by man. but yea so not every girl gos for personality she use to stay she wanted to marry me would cry if we had fights... thinking I would leave her. but where is she now? off with the guy with more money all it took was a guy with a car n our parents breaking us up to end our relationship. But I have accepted what happened it's been a year and I have improved myself so much since then. young girls want money older women know better then that

[NatashaJ]

@skykidx1 Well maybe she just didn't love you anymore and moved on it happens.

[snowangle]

@skykidx1 Agree with Natasha. You don't know that it's because of money. Maybe she just wasn't feeling it anymore.

[NatashaJ]

@snowangle Exactly some people just want to jump t conclusions to feel better about the breakup, if he really wanted to know just ask her why then.

[Jessabella]

I don't care about money or looks or dick size, as long as he's got a big heart, likes kids, is a caring considerate guy then he's good. He should also be there when you need him and know how to make you smile even in the worst of times. Also if he does little things to show that he respects you and likes you/ cares you that's a big thumbs up. Like opening the door or walking his girl to class or even just coming up to the door to pick her up for a date instead of waiting in the car.

[Chief16]

@Jessabella oh, good for you.

[Jessabella]

Do you care about the size of a guys dick and his looks and money?

[Chief16]

@Jessabella someone else's? Not particularly. Mostly because I don't swing that way. What I say is the truth tho. Manners won't fill your belly, kindness is an act of love, not love itself. If you want the kinda guy you mentioned, get a dog, it'll do all those things barring the chivalrous part.

[Jessabella]

I'd rather a guy who is kind than a guy with a huge dick and I'm pretty sure a lot of girls on here would agree with me

[Chief16]

@Jessabella sure, I don't exactly many other women disagreeing with me. Don't get me wrong, superior genes and wealth is almost an universal factor for any woman out there, doesn't make her shallow. Its just expected scientifically.

[Chief16]

@Jessabella *see

[Jessabella]

Well then what would guys look for in girls, scientifically speaking?

[Chief16]

@Jessabella sorry to say, guys don't have so much trouble choosing a girl, we can usually choose the girl we want with relative impunity, we are not pressurized as much as women are by society, we date whoever the hell we want. Perks of a guy, really. But on that basis, if you want the perfect couple scientifically, then yeah both of them being tall, well endowed, highly intelligent and even wealthy would make an ideal pairing.

[Jessabella]

I'm sorry but seriously?

[Chief16]

@Jessabella dude, this getting annoying. Yeah. Its true, men aren't slut shamed. Men don't have to live upto that ridiculous 'bio-clock' expectation that society forces on women. And it certainly won't scrutinize you for the wealth you make, science is objective, it doesn't deal with what-ifs, I can say with some certainty that 'love' doesn't keep relationships alive, responsibility and compromises do. And that's a fact. I mean, these things don't necessarily come out of love, but out of sense of equilibrium, if you want to hear more, I'll be writing a take about it, I invite you to read it.

[Jessabella]

Ok I will

[idkwtftoputhere]

"we date whoever the hell we want. Perks of a guy, really."
Speak for your damn self, PLENTY of men will not date a woman who does not share the same values, religion and/or race. If mommy and daddy say no to the relationship, they won't bother.

[Chief16]

@idkwtftoputhere they want to listen to mommy and daddy? That's their choice. What's your point?

[idkwtftoputhere]

It contradicts your point. Not all guys can date whoever they want especially if they are conservative/family oriented and/or come from a culture where their family's word is everything and cannot be disrespected. NO they don't all have a choice. That's extremely naive to think.

[idkwtftoputhere]

You're from India, I'm surprised you don't already know this.

[Chief16]

@idkwtftoputhere dude being a slave to tradition is a choice no matter how radically you think. People who don't think they have a choice are often right, they don't. If you wanna have your cake and still eat it, its delusional, you've to make the choice to eat the cake or have it. Its still a choice. People who believe in dogma will always be under the illusion, that they were born a certain way to live a certain life and die a certain death. And that's the choice they make.

[Chief16]

@idwtftoputhere what if I'm from India? Traditions are slipping by the day. Unless you're from a orthodox family or a joint family, I don't believe anyone enforeces this 'you must marry the person I choose' anymore.

[Chief16]

@idkwtftoputhere

[idkwtftoputhere]

Sure India is getting progressive very gradually but there are still many rural areas where things haven't changed much at all. In some of these areas the caste system is rigid which doesn't leave much room for a man or woman to pick and choose who they wanna marry. Of course, theoretically they do have a choice, but practically speaking they do not especially if they have been raised to never disobey their parents. I'm Indian and even in a Western country like Canada I have relatives who have very little choice in who they can date and marry regardless of their sex. So saying guys can date whoever they want is a blatant lie and you really should just speak for yourself.

[Chief16]

@idkwtftoputhere lol, ok. Speaking for myself. Guys can date whoever the hell they want. Go ahead, burn me.😛

[skykidx1]

@snowangle she said thats why

[skykidx1]

@NatashaJ she said that was the reasoN.

[NatashaJ]

@skykidx1 If you look you see my comments are towards the guy accusing his ex of leaving for money and looks, there no proof or evidence that she did. She simple could be dating someone she feel its a better match for her.

[skykidx1]

@NatashaJ ooooo oh okay

[Ellaphoebe14]

I really regret responding to this. lol...

[John_Doesnt]

We're all thinking it and you said it.

[Sara413]

Lol at the bitter dudes responding to this take.

Literally all this take boils down to is "he respects you and genuinely cares about you" but somehow, some way, the bitter as fuck dudes here found a way to get butt hurt by it...

[lumos]

I agree with all of these points. Lol at all the bitter men who have commented.

[alfonsosloan45]

It has nothing to do with bitterness. She is living in fantasy land.

[myTake Owner]

@alfonsosloan45 Isn't it sad that being a genuine person is considered "fantasy land"?

[MasterofPlebs]

@alfonsosloan45 How is it fantasy land? All you have to do is... well, do it. Nothing fantastical about taking actions.

[alfonsosloan45]

That isn't being a genuine person. You have formed your position based on hollywood films of what it means to be a genuine person. @lumos

[MasterofPlebs]

@alfonsosloan45 Caring about someone as a prerequisite to loving that person is a matter of reason, not a matter of fantasy.

That's literally all this list is.

[myTake Owner]

@alfonsosloan45 You seem to be on your own here Alfonso. It isn't difficult or unheard of to be a good person, you just haven't learned it yet.

[alfonsosloan45]

It isn't about being a good person. It is about doing these specific things that you believe correlate with good character. Just because he pushes you for sex doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. He could show you care in other ways.

[alfonsosloan45]

@MasterofPlebs @lumos

[myTake Owner]

@alfonsosloan45 If he cared he wouldn't push her to do something she doesn't want to do, that doesn't even make any sense.

[alfonsosloan45]

He also has needs which is what makes him human. The reality is most men can't stand passively by and wait. That isn't reality. You are giving him an expectation to live up to that defines care which has been predetermined by movies. @mytakeowner

[myTake Owner]

@alfonsosloan45 You are exactly the guy girls should be avoiding, you know that?

[alfonsosloan45]

Women don't avoid me because I am an honest person because that is the truth. Most men will keep asking for sex. No man will just wait for it. You still live in fantasy land because you are young. @mytakeowner

[MasterofPlebs]

@alfonsosloan45 If you're not considering her feelings or needs, then you don't care. You don't know better than her what her needs are. She knows that her needs are.

[alfonsosloan45]

@MasterofPlebs and if she isn't considering your sexual needs then she doesn't care. Why are men expected to care for women's every need?

[MasterofPlebs]

@alfonsosloan45 If you love someone you wouldn't care what your needs are.

[myTake Owner]

@MasterofPlebs Preach ❤️

[alfonsosloan45]

@MasterofPlebs THERE IT IS!! That is what I am talking about. The ideology where a man is suppose to put all of his needs aside, drop what he is doing, and tend to a woman. That is an ideology in romance scenes. That is completely one sided. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you give up everything for them.

[myTake Owner]

@alfonsosloan45 It could go the other way too, if a woman is ready and the man isn't and she loves him then she can wait. I don't really see why you're being so misogynistic in your ideals.

[alfonsosloan45]

Love isn't a sacrifice. It is a mutual benefit.

[myTake Owner]

@alfonsosloan45 Love is caring about another persons feelings and values.

[MasterofPlebs]

@alfonsosloan45 Love isn't a sacrifice? Really? What kind of father would you be to your children?

[FallOutBoy2001]

@alfonsosloan45 real love is a two way street, where both parties are willing to put aside their needs to fulfill the needs of the other person. You seem rather bitter

[alfonsosloan45]

@FallOutBoy2001 You shouldn't have to put your needs aside.

[tmlrm007]

my fiance is absolutely all of those things and i'm all of those things for him. you just sort of know when they're one, you feel it every time you look at them or hear their voice. even listening to a voice mail or looking at a picture of them.

[mikemx55]

"2) You can communicate with eye contact"

I absolutely love when that happens. It isn't frequent nor with the "right girl", but it's still very nice :D

[the-mad-german]

please girl... thats something you just can't write a list about...

the "perfect guy" could turn to a monster every minute... you just can never be sure that a relationship works. And lets be honest... it would be boring if you know from the start if a relationship will break soon or later or never right from the start.

[Anonymous]

Don't forget confidence. I think none of these things matter if the guy isn't confident. These are all the right things once the two of you are in a relationship but it first requires him to have the guts to even ask the girl out. I think a lot of guys who are sensitive enough to really care about what the girl likes, not to pressure her into sex or respecting you are also too sensitive to ask her out

[Markus_179]

Perfect needs to:
•Be in touch with her spirituality
•Not be Materialistic
•Make you feel like a king when your at your lowest
•Has your best interest overall

[SammyGurl]

Importantly, since Love is an action as well as an emotion; he/she is the one you choose to Love.

[rahul1307ghosh]

I do all of it... Even more but she just doesn't repect it :(

[freedomz]

More like she doesn't recognize it. Maybe find someone else who will see your value?

[AleDeEurope]

Dude, she's not the right one for you. It's dunping time.

[rahul1307ghosh]

Just becuz she doesn't recognize it now it doesn't mean she never will... she is the one... i want my life with her... the more she will be rude the more I will love her... one day she will realize and respect it all... one day she will love me equally... i just have to put faith...
U know it might sound lame to some people, even girly , stupid or delusional or simply drunk

[freedomz]

Dude no. As a woman myself, if she doesn't respect it today, she never will. Please stop for your own good.

[rahul1307ghosh]

@freedomz thanks for ur advice but in not capable of that... sorry I'm just like that... true life can't be found... u have to make it...

[freedomz]

No you can't force these kind of things.

She isn't into you and you are losing your value

[FallOutBoy2001]

You should leave her. You're only 17, and there are plenty of girls out there.

[rahul1307ghosh]

Look I want to clear this... she doesn't appreciate a lot and probably never apologizes much but I know she loves me and I love her even more. The problem with todays generation is nobody wants to do any sacrifice. nobody finds true love is becuz u don't believe in it. u can't get a perfect person but u can make it perfect with love and patience. Yes its difficult sometimes but its worth it. True love is not found... u have to make it... im not dumping her... nor am I ever going to stop loving her... i know it sounds like shit crazy but in just in love... thata all

[freedomz]

What makes you think that she might like you?

[rahul1307ghosh]

@freedomz she loves me... Not just becuz she said it but because i can feel it. If not all the time. When i look in her eyes i know in that heart there's only one name and thats mine. Look i can't possibly prove she loves me but i dont need to.. I know she loves me. AND I love her even more. please stop doubting her.. Stop asking me silly questions.

[freedomz]

Im asking questions because it seems like you are getting hurt in all this.. Im just being concerned.

You can be mad all you want but if the person brings you more pain then happiness, its not reciprocal love.

[rahul1307ghosh]

@freedomz thank u for ur concern. Im not mad or anything its just that im different in these things. Im not like others. I can't just break up and move on. I know it has become realy painful but to all the questions u have i can give u just one answer and that is i love her. I know blind love is hazardous. Im going to tell u something and its going to sound super crazy this time. .. I love her.. I love her and i just love her.. And i will do even if it kills me. Thank u for being so nice :) but i can't break up... And im saying this nicely.. Not mad 😀

[JohnMike999]

Dude stop loving her already, i thought the same thing once, i though she loves me when i asked her out she turned me down. I asked myself why? Why did she turn me down? I thought maybe i asked her too early and she wasn't ready, i wanted to stay in her life i thought she would change her feelings, but she never did, the only thing i earned was a friend who loves me as a friend. To summarize for you:
-I loved someone who didn't feel the same way for me, and that hurted me more than i could enjoy it.
-I wasted 3 months of my life.
-I earned friendship and respect not relationship as i expected.
-I moved on the moment i found another girl who loves me back.
You think you can't move on but when you find someone else who loves, apperciates, and respects you will forget her completly.(Ah i forgot to mention she APPERCIATED what i was doing, but she didn't love me as expected in the end.)

[rahul1307ghosh]

@JohnMike999 look bro first thing is she is my girl.. She is perhaps not sweet all the time but she sure loves me. I know shedoesn't appreciate a lot but she will.. I believe in my love and i beleive in her too.. So please stop trying to convince me to break up... U people never try so hard for a patchup... No matter how many times u tell me this bro but i love her and im not leaving her.. Not even if i die... Not even if she leaves me

[JohnMike999]

But she isn't your girl dude, how can she be your girl if she doesn't respect you (just ask yourself how is it possible she loves someone she doesn't respect? Ask yourself "Why do you respect her? Because you love her, now ask yourself "Why doesn't she respect you? I hope you get what im trying to say.)
The girl who i told you about used to tell me she loves me everynight, heck she even told me that yesterday, at the end she told me no.

[freedomz]

Not trying to break up, just making you realize something... Respect is a 2 way street

[freedomz]

Just be careful

[MasterofPlebs]

Oh my God! This is 100% right up my alley, where are the good girls who I can share my love with?

Honestly, this is me 100%. I care about my crush in this way wholly and entirely!

Why God?

[ResonantGuy]

Then go tell her.

[melmel1]

I felt like tearing while reading this. Very beautiful

[Unapologetic01]

He respects you like a best friend. That's so true!

[Spiorad_Aisce]

They sound good to me - If you meet a guy with those attributes, you wouldn't go far wrong.

[Grace_Rdz]

Fuckkk.
All of these is like us, even the first picture. But we both like the same person. It's so weird 🤔

[Anonymous]

Ha, my boyfriend does all of these things

And OH YEAH GUYS

... he's somewhat over weight and BROKE!

[John_Doesnt]

If he listens to your childhood stories he probably cares more about you than most people.