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So I Like This Guy...But What's The Next Step?

It's a jungle out there, especially when it comes to the dating games these days.
With almost everyone that is single (as well as some of those that aren't) looking for the right guy or gal, it's hard to know where to begin when you really do like someone and really don't know how to tell him (or her).When you like someone it's easy to deal with if you don't know whether or not they like you too. You can either decide to say something or leave things as they are and walk away. Choosing the latter is the option that most girls take, and usually stems from a lack of confidence. But what happens when the guy actually looks at you, flirts with you and smiles every time he catches your eye?

If he doesn't ask you out then it can be difficult to figure out where you stand, and even more difficult to show that you are interested without being branded easy or, alternatively, a slut. The problem is that if you don't make it know that you are interested, the likelihood is that the guy will not do anything about it. He is most likely just as uncertain about your feelings as you are his.

These tips can help you to catch his eye, get his attention and let him know you are interested without coming across as desperate!




Make Yourself Available
Making yourself available does not mean drop everything to purposely spend time around him. If you're planning on being at an event and know he will be there then that is cool, but cancelling a prior engagement to be where he will be is most definitely not. The last thing you want to do is neglect your friends, responsibilities and interests for a guy, regardless of who he is or how strongly you feel. Besides, do you really want to be known as a stalker? Making yourself available is giving off good vibes when you are around him and making the effort to say hello if you walk past him. Smiling is also a good example of making yourself available because it is a warm and friendly body language gesture. This is the easy part. The next is the most daunting, but unfortunately it has to be done!

Make The First Move
In this day and age of sexual equality, there is nothing wrong with a girl making the first move. You don't have to ask him out, but just engage him in conversation. Talking to him will help you get to know each other a little better and will hopefully give him the courage to approach the subject of going out some time. If he doesn't after a while, then broach the subject yourself. Try to choose something that he can't say no to - an event, gig or night out that he would be likely to attend anyway. That will be within his comfort zone and make it easier for him to say yes!

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Look After Your Body Language
It is a well-known fact that our bodies talk for us. Only 7% of what we say is actually communicated via words, with the majority coming from the way our bodies are subconsciously moving and the way we gesture. As a result, you have to have your body language in control and give off the right signals. Make sure that you don't appear too aloof. Deliberately acting as if you don't care will put him off or, at the very least, discourage him from asking you out. Instead, act naturally and just let your body do the talking. If you like him then you'll make the gestures that communicate that to him. Don't try to pretend that you feel something that you don't because he will interpret it as a big red stop sign.

Don't Hang Around In A Big Group Of Girls!
This is the main mistake that girls make when they like a guy. We all do it for moral support. Having our girlfriends around us makes us all feel at ease, especially when they're commenting on how much he's staring and obviously likes you! However, this is the worst thing you can possibly do if he is staring at you and does like you. After all, would you walk up to him and talk to him in front of all of his fiends, with every single one of them listening intently to every single word you say? No! He is not likely to approach you in front of all of your friends in case you turn him down. Potential embarrassment will keep him away, and besides that, us girls can be very scary to even the most red-blooded of males, even when we don't mean to be.

If you really want him to come and talk to you, or carry on a conversation that you've started, then stick to one or two friends if you do feel that you need moral support.

The dating game may seem like cat and mouse, but that's only if you let it be. If he smiles, flirts and obviously likes you then he's probably just suffering from nerves. Guys do get them too you know, or so my husband tells me. It worked for me, so it can definitely work for you!


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