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I remember getting in my first big age gap relationship at 28. I was dating a 20 year old. It was a weird combination of excitement, fear of judgment, concern about maturity and yet youthful fun and vigor. I was also the oldest guy she ever dated too. That one didn’t work out. She was very immature and a freeloader. I also sometimes acted purposely immature out of fear of looking too boring/old. There is a playful way to do that but you need to switch it off fast in when you are expected to be an adult. Not always easy to switch.

I’ve been in 3 other age gap relationships. Biggest gap was 34 and 21. That was doomed to fail from the start but we had a ton of fun while it lasted. She ghosted me after 9 months and I was surprised it lasted that long. The ghosting still hurt and was complete bullshit. But I knew that risk came with the territory.

I’m not opposed to dating women my age. As long their relatively attractive and have a positive attitude I’ll give it a shot. But here are the challenges:

- They are far fewer single women my age.
- They are usually divorced and/or have kids. Not a dealbreaker but it definitely complicates things.
- I also noticed single women my age forget how to be fun. I briefly dated a woman a year older than me and I was shocked/pissed off that she thinks it still okay to shit test men on sexual stuff. She lead me on and changed her mind at the last second. A grown ass woman should know better than that.
- If I want to get serious with one than having kids could be a bigger challenge.
- Some older single women are just mentally unstable. I know that same standard could be applied to me. But as a man nobody is taking a knee to propose to me in marriage. Being single at my age has much different ramifications (and bad stereotypes) as a man vs. a woman.

So I m writing a novel and The Protagonist is a guy that had been mentally manipulated by his world around him.
This is my character I'm working on what are your thoughts?

The character is currently 31years old.
He has been held back by his mother who had been controlling his life ever since he was a teenager. His ambition and goal is to move out his controlling parents house but they won't let him grow up. They fight against his maturity in order to keep him a child. Note : this characters whole family treated him as a seven year old kid. His Cousins Brother mother almost all his family members. He can't even use small things like a bank ATM. HIS mother holds everything in her hand... His ID BOOK , HIS BANKCARD.. she controls his life.. and others around try to do the same (nit everyone) just those who want to manipulate him and treat him like a kid.

Plot
Tom Grayson is a 31 year Male.. Who had been mentally manipulated Creating a challenged yet normal person who
desires to move out if his mother's house and become independent. But has no idea how to escape her grasp as she is one of those parents who doesn't want him to grow up and become an adult.

Note: there was nothing wrong with his mind in the beginning of the story. he was a pretty normal person. Who had been treated like a kid all his life