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We've been together for 8 years, and he's the only person I've ever dated. We're kind of engaged, but not really. It's complicated. I just don't feel like a priority to him, and I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to him about it, and he either says he'll try, or that he'll work on things, or he'll do the complete opposite and say I can't and won't ever be his #1 priority and that he's just not capable of putting someone else's needs before his own. I don't know what to do about this, because I love him and I don't want to lose him, but I feel like things aren't ever going to change. I always put him first, make him a priority in my life, and I would do anything for him. If I ask him to do one little thing it's the biggest hassle and he makes me feel guilty for asking. What should I do?


(Also, guys, give me your perspectives on being in a relationship, being in love. Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman where you'd do anything for her? Am I crazy for thinking I should be as important to him as he is to me?)

I ask bc I often see questions from MEN on gag, regarding women being evasive when asked out. As if it is a behavioral flaw specific to a gender , rather than an occasional ( if not _ideal_) type of reaction any human being is capable of making, given the situation.

Asking and Hearing from women who regularly ask men out , they experience similar things.

I am wondering if the assumption that not being direct is something specific to women , may have developed bc men typically are not oit in the same position of having to answer on the spot.

It is easy to know what you want when you are the one who planned for it... Whereas if anyone is caught off guard and not sure about certain things it can be difficult to simply answer black and white.

I know there are all kinds of reasons a person may avoid saying yes or no

They do enough about the person to know if they are or are not interested

They don’t want to appear too eager

They are not sure his they feel

They dk if it’s honest question

They do if they will mess things up

they dk the person well enough to understand their question - what do they want when they ask

They may be interested but lack time or not sure if schedule

They may not want to have to say no

I think the last point is simply ONE among many
While anything other than yes is taken as the last.

I do understand wanting to get yes or be done with it.. However I wonder if everyone was accustomed to being asked out, if they might see that it is more complicated than yes or no.

so I’m asking guys who _have_ been asked oit have you always answered unequivocally , yes or no?

if not can you explain what was going on at the time to prevent your doing so?

Thank you !✨✨