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I’ve been dating my girlfriend Lucy for a year. Lucy has a lot of good values. She’s smart with her money and has no debt. We’re thinking about getting married in the new year. I’m 33 and she’s 43, so there’s no time waste. But 90% of her friends are male, so only has 3 female friends. Which is kind of strange to me. She’s not a tomboy, these dudes aren’t gay, so why would she be so close to other men? She has a guy friend Alex that she texts a lot. Every time Alex has a girlfriend she doesn’t like his relationship with Lucy. Also, Alex doesn’t text Lucy as often when he’s dating, and Lucy gets pissed that he’s neglected. I wrote about this in another question.

We’ve had arguments about her male friends and she told me that I’m “too jealous”, and that she’ll stop hanging around men for our relationship. She showed me her texts to prove there’s nothing going on with the guys, but I’m still uncomfortable.

On the flip side she hates that my best friend is a 69 year old woman whom I FaceTime once awhile. So how can I accept her guy friends and she doesn’t like me being friends with an elderly woman? She also got mad at me for going a girls apartment with a crowd.

This girl (20) would drive 2 hours to see me (25) every weekend for 2 months, so she really liked me. It was always a really good time. We bonded right away and went on really fun/sexy adventures (stripping her naked and eating her ass on the beach) and a few dates. But I didn’t treat her like a girlfriend. I never called her, asked if she got home safe, snapchatted her, sent good morning texts, no relationship talk, but we texted everyday. It now feels like I was leading her on, even though she drove 2 hours to see me. Playing her was never my intention because I liked her too.

She recently started playing games so I called her out, she got mad, a brief argument happened, a few days later I kinda tried to make up for it, shortly later I was ghosted after saying “if you’re down to keep things going then so am I. You gotta admit it’s always a good time.

It’s been two weeks since the argument and a week since she ghosted me. Should I send her “I get it. There’s a lot of things I wish I did but it’s in the past. Our shenanigans were wild. Hopefully you find someone who isn’t two hours away”

If not, what else should I say?