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I’ve been seeing a guy for some time and the energy was great in the beginning- he was really into spending time with me. However, the last few weeks have been kinda rough. He’s about to go into another year of school and completely supports himself (working for rent, food, and tuition money).

He works odd jobs (one of them, for example, delivery for a local florist) and visited his best friend across the country for a couple weeks, which kept him from working for a little while. I could feel communication changing between us so I brought it up the last time we saw each other, which was when he got back. He told me that he was going to start to catch up on working because of the time he missed, especially with rent/tuition coming up, so he’d probably be distant for a while.

We didn’t speak for two weeks and I understand his situation but I was still bothered. So I reached out and he apologized and said that he’s had quite a few things on his plate. I also remembered that he told me a while ago about a serious personal matter that’s actually coming up in the next few weeks, so I know he is juggling some stuff.

Part of me (due to insecurities from past relationships) is kinda afraid of all of this being an excuse to ghost me. I always hear people say “if they wanted to they would” etc but I am sympathetic to being in stressful situations. I have really bad anxiety and at times, I shut out everyone and retreat. I also know that guys at times have the tendency to do the same.

I guess I’m asking, does it seem like he’s retreating because of dealing with what’s going on in his life, or could it be some ghosting bs “being busy”?

Ok so my sister is super pissed off right now. When they met, her boyfriend had insecurity issues from the beginning and would act somewhat jealous with a couple past ex gfs. Apparently he had a couple bad experiences too.

My sister had a couple past relationships too but always remained faithful to whoever she was with. Her boyfriend distrusted when she got pregnant and kept accusing her of cheating without any evidence. He wanted to take a paternity text on their 4 month-old daughter. He took and the test is positive; he is the father. He has kept apologizing ever since but my sister is very hurt and furious. She is thinking of raising their child separately. He can still visit but she still wants to break up with him.

Girls, would you break up or give him a chance? Guys, is the girl right to be upset and break up?