I’ve been seeing a guy for some time and the energy was great in the beginning- he was really into spending time with me. However, the last few weeks have been kinda rough. He’s about to go into another year of school and completely supports himself (working for rent, food, and tuition money).
He works odd jobs (one of them, for example, delivery for a local florist) and visited his best friend across the country for a couple weeks, which kept him from working for a little while. I could feel communication changing between us so I brought it up the last time we saw each other, which was when he got back. He told me that he was going to start to catch up on working because of the time he missed, especially with rent/tuition coming up, so he’d probably be distant for a while.
We didn’t speak for two weeks and I understand his situation but I was still bothered. So I reached out and he apologized and said that he’s had quite a few things on his plate. I also remembered that he told me a while ago about a serious personal matter that’s actually coming up in the next few weeks, so I know he is juggling some stuff.
Part of me (due to insecurities from past relationships) is kinda afraid of all of this being an excuse to ghost me. I always hear people say “if they wanted to they would” etc but I am sympathetic to being in stressful situations. I have really bad anxiety and at times, I shut out everyone and retreat. I also know that guys at times have the tendency to do the same.
I guess I’m asking, does it seem like he’s retreating because of dealing with what’s going on in his life, or could it be some ghosting bs “being busy”?
He works odd jobs (one of them, for example, delivery for a local florist) and visited his best friend across the country for a couple weeks, which kept him from working for a little while. I could feel communication changing between us so I brought it up the last time we saw each other, which was when he got back. He told me that he was going to start to catch up on working because of the time he missed, especially with rent/tuition coming up, so he’d probably be distant for a while.
We didn’t speak for two weeks and I understand his situation but I was still bothered. So I reached out and he apologized and said that he’s had quite a few things on his plate. I also remembered that he told me a while ago about a serious personal matter that’s actually coming up in the next few weeks, so I know he is juggling some stuff.
Part of me (due to insecurities from past relationships) is kinda afraid of all of this being an excuse to ghost me. I always hear people say “if they wanted to they would” etc but I am sympathetic to being in stressful situations. I have really bad anxiety and at times, I shut out everyone and retreat. I also know that guys at times have the tendency to do the same.
I guess I’m asking, does it seem like he’s retreating because of dealing with what’s going on in his life, or could it be some ghosting bs “being busy”?
