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My situation is this. I was abused by my father who had a drinking problem when I was younger. Around age 12 or 13 was the worst time when he physically abused me by hitting me. My parents later divorced and I chose to stay with my mom, I did not want much to do with my father. I did not feel safe with him and the violence caused some emotional trauma that I needed to get away from. Over the years he hasn't helped me with anything and didn't even call to see if I needed help. Now I'm older and started talking to him again about a year ago when he wished me a happy birthday really I was just hoping he would offer to help me pay off my student loan debt or something as a way to make up for the past. But he never asks if I need help and never offers. He merely texts me to ask how I'm doing, and I am tempted to tell him I don't need a buddy to ask me how I'm doing. I needed a father and now I don't need one anymore. A father's role is to protect and provide which he didn't do for me. My spiritual father says he forfeited his role when he failed to do these things. I would like to confront him about the past again, last time I did about eight years ago he denied everything. I would say that it's hard for me to forge a relationship with no Foundation seeing as he never asked for forgiveness or confessed anything. Thank you for your feedback and feel free to comment.

About every other weekend he drives 4 hours to see me for a couple days. I don't have my license. Just my permit because I recently turned 18. He knows I'm not comfortable with driving yet. He has lots of driving experience.
I told him my mom would drive me halfway to meet him this next time and he was so excited but I knew we should do something for my mom. I asked if he would chip in maybe 25 and I would give her 25 for gas and just for the fact that she did this.
He said he would do it but he wasn't very happy and he wondered why my mom got money for this trip but he never gets anything for all the times he comes down.
He's my boyfriend, I shouldn't have to pay him just for coming down to see me. I buy him gifts plenty and make food for him. I have even suggested in the past paying him gas money but he said that I didn't have to do that. When I told him to just forget about paying my mom and that I was a little upset that he said that, he didn't want to talk about it and started acting really defensive and rude. He said there is no point in talking about it because I wouldn't understand so I asked why would you even bring it up in the first place and he couldn't even give me a direct answer he just got pissy.