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I mean if you think about it, I've encountered far more men who openly admitted that they'd rather treat their women like princesses rather than having a mutual relationship because it makes them feel "emasculated" which think is kind of a dumb reason to treat them this way. To me, I don't expect too much of my girlfriend just as much as I hope she doesn't expect much from me.

As soon as I express this opinion on the internet to other men, I get called "less than a man" or a "boy" because I'm not following their idealistic views of how I should work my relationship. It's pathetic, really. I mean sure, there are also a lot of girls who feel self-entitled to be treated like princesses but the majority of them in my experience have never held this mindset, only the rich girls who were spoiled by their daddies. Mostly men with insecurities, hold this mindset because I don't know, I guess it's a competition thing to them.

Here's my story:

I have been in a long distance relationship with this girl for almost a year now. We were friends before we dated, and needless to say, there were several parts of her that i didn't like as a friend. But i have come to like her (and love her) ever since we dated, however, It seems like there are more pressing "red flags" that are resurfacing.

1. She's hella insecure. She cries a lot. Has a lot of hate from the past that she can't let go. She doesn't think she's pretty (although i always tell her), She thinks she won't go far in this world, She thinks she sucks as a person generally.

2. She's pretty immature. We're 4 years apart, I'm a young professional; I work full time and have my own business. She's still in college, and an only child. She has a loooot of issues. I don't think we synch because of the differences in maturity. I'm pretty independent, I always travel, although i'm an introvert, i make it so that i can at least talk to people. She's pretty much a social recluse, and sometimes i feel like she hates everybody. And sometimes i'm taking on the role of the big brother, and she, the spoiled little sister.

3. She's not very smart. I myslef am pretty big on social issues, political, environmental, etc. But i can't have meaningful conversations with her at the least. She doesn't have much to say about anything that involves logical critical thinking. Sometimes it drives me nuts.

Aside all that though, she's really caring and pretty sweet. By far, she's been the best girlfriend i had and i love her to bits. She always showers me with hugs and kisses, and love i just can;t get enough of.

Should I stay with her? or would these "red flags" be a problem if we started living together? I really need your help. Thanks a lot!