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In a situation where I'm Torn between wanting to make a friend, but not knowing if they like me or I'm being annoying? Can't decide if I should reach out and make plans, or wait for her to?

It's a girl from my town I'd never spoken to but knew of. Two months ago I messaged her to ask about something. It wasn't my goal to make friends, but she ended up being super friendly and talkative, she carried the conversation on all evening, to the point we weren't even talking about the thing I initially asked. She also followed me on TikTok and Insta and I followed back.
The next day, she popped up to me, and once again we spoke for most of the evening. The conversation even got quite deep when she started sharing some personal things.

After that point, we continued chatting here and there, and liking and commenting on eachother's posts. During one of our chats she suggested we meet up once restrictions are lifted.
Eventually restrictions did start lifting, so I reached out and asked if she wanted to make plans like we'd spoken about. She said sure, so I began asking about which day would be best. She didn't even open the message all night, then when she finally did, she left me on read. I Was pretty dismayed and confused, as she'd been the one to suggest this in the first place, so didn't know why she seemed reluctant now. She finally did reply that evening, and said she was out of town but would be back from 4th-7th May

It is now the 4th May, and I haven't heard from her. I'm Not sure what to do next.
I Can't tell if she actually wants to meet anymore or not, and even if she does I'm not sure if I should message her or wait for her to message me.
Something is telling me to leave her alone, but I don't know it's that just paranoia/anxiety getting in the way if me making a friend.
She's apparently only back until Friday, then I'll soon be starting a new job so won't have as much free time, so I don't want to miss out on our chance to meet.

I was talking to a guy for about 6 months or so. We met online & due to covid we weren't able to see each other, we got really close really fast. Things were good but then he began to have doubts at 5 months & talked about a break for a while until we could see each other. 6 months he officially said to go on a break and if i found someone it was okay. Things were good, we would talk, he would call me beautiful & said his dad asked about us. Mind you this was about 2 weeks ago. A week ago i texted him telling him i missed him and i got no response or anything. I waited and doubled texted and then triple texted a couple days later this past Friday, the 23rd, he posted a picture of him with a girl and the caption said "hot girl summer WHO? #datenight #couplegoals #covid_19 #romantic" I saw it when i opened insta and i liked it and he blocked me on everything. Days later he messaged me and deleted the picture, he said he didn't know what he's doing with himself. He also said "The one person i posted, like I don't know, they approached me and i was like hey let's give this a try i guess. I blocked you like an immature guy then boom it doesn't work, i reflect on myself and i feel like an idiot who feels like i do everythin wrong. I probably hurt you and probably ruined that chance. I get left for somethin stupid and now i feel like i ruined everythin this is why i have commitment issues and its my own damn fault." then he does on to say he is unhappy and insecure. tried to fill the void when he isn't happy with himself. He also apologized for blocking me. The things I asked for were to never block me & to please tell me if he ever found anyone. He did the exact opposite & apologized I've thought about this, he did bring up taking a break and told me what he did like he reached out. But i don't want to be an afterthought but have feelings for him, i can't fully trust but i want to be friends.. Let me know what u think