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Last night my ex boyfreind texted me after not texting for a few days. It is his cousins birthday and he said if I am around come to the bar as a friend. Which was weird. Thinking since I guess maybe his cousin doestn know about us. It was 12 so I was declining. I told him I was not dressed for it and he said he was casual. He said to come a few times to me but I didn't. He then goes Im being serious about the freind thing. The he goes into saying he is not interested in anything else right now. What does that even mean? Is he not ready for us again yet, ever or what? and why invite to a semi family function.
Backstory on us; We were in relationship for 3 months Short lived but amazing. He struggled with a job and that played into him breaking up. Everyone thought we should still be together. Anyway after bu we continued talking and we have sex. Some months in he went back and forth with that idea saying we should stop because its not fair to either of us but we never did. Bu happened in April and now its January so you can see the amount of time. I still very much have feelings and deep down inside hope and believe maybe one day things can work. Although I am not holding onto that. Anyway he also makes side comments about me and other guys like seeing if im with other people or like oh im sure your with a new boyfriend now, which none of us is with anyone else besides each other. Why the coments and why say that to me last night? What does that even mean?

I have a 21 year old friend that is a guy and I'm a girl. He is a virgin and has never been kissed. In high school he was sexually harrassed and touched inappropriately without his consent on multiple occasions. When he spoke up, adults chose to look the other way and do nothing. As a result, he is still suffering from this as he is socially awkward and has a hard time trusting people. He said after what happened he completely closed up to people. Anyways now he wants to come out of his she'll but doesn't know how. It's also awkward when he approaches other women. Anyways his birthday is coming up and I thought about taking him out some where special and cuddling with and kissing him. In my opinion I would be fine with this as he has been there for me when I have had difficult times. However, i am not sure how he would take this. My issues are not as big as his issues. I want him to experience something wonderful for his birthday as his life has not been the greatest. Should I do this?