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A couple agreed they would get married in the future, it happened sort of fast (never good) but for religious reasons and sex... one day the guy (Sam) says he never wants to marry) and never have sex... he explained that he had fears and said because the girl would have to choose between love and money as Sam works a very busy and maybe dangerous job but the girl accepts sadly and tells him she will give other men a chance... but not long he goes back to calling her "my love" (his love). Sam got blue-balls when he saw her and asked for help (she was reluctant). She is talking about the relationship and he says maybe he can marry her, but she thinks he is emotional and not honest. COVID/corona starts 19. Sam isn't working but busy. She learns that Sam's father got covid19 he is at hospital. . She meets another man (let's call him John) online who has romantic interest in her (only 1 week of talking), she accepts all the arrows from John because she wants to marry and something serious. Sam has Corona/COVID and says he will die. She is so sad, and they confess the obvious love for each other... he becomes better and video calls her as soon as he reaches home, saying he missed her … she knows Love is not always enough, but wonders his intentions. A few weeks pass and no contact from Sam and during the time forgets about him to focus on the more serious John. Sam has Corona again and was in hospital. First day home he contacts her. She decides she needs to question Sam. If he wants to marry her, she may accept because she loves him. But because of COVID she never had the right time to ask him... So what about John? She doesn't want to make John sad. John says he loves her (but it can't be "true in love".. it is only a week and they are texting. She loves John but not in-love. time is an obstacle.. maybe John will wait. She feels truth is best but thinks John will feel hurt to know she is giving another guy preference over him.

So my boyfriend and I had a funny thought about weddings.

My boyfriend and I were watching Bridezillas (he hates it, but it's my guilty pleasure), and we were already talking about our wedding. Plans are to be engaged after a year (so September), but he kept saying that it would be fun for me to plan it and pick everything, but just run it past him. Then I told him it was our wedding so he should help, and he agreed. But I told him that he didn't really see it as 'his' because he doesn't want to participate. He just wants to reserve the right to say 'no'. And I told him most guys are like that. They get pissy about the 'my wedding' attitude brides have, but most guys don't actually help plan anything. The woman does, and the man is along for the ride to say yes or no. But they don't have an opinion on anything. They want it picked out for them and presented to them so they can approve or deny it.

He sat there for a moment, laughed, and eventually admitted I was right. He doesn't really want to look at flowers or go to cake tastings or pick out silverware. He just wants to try the food and pick the venue with me, but do nothing else. But he wants to have an opinion. So basically I go out and find everything, present it to him, and he can say yes or no. He has 3 brothers, all have been married, and they were like that. My sister's husband was like that. My dad was like that. He was in 3 friend's wedding, and he said every one of his friends were like that.

Guys, why are you like this when it comes to weddings? OR are you?