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Choose honestly what guy are you likely to give a chance. You may not like his behaviour but you are more likely to date him.

This question might sound a bit strange because I don't think any girl would like to be treated like shit but that's not the point of the question.

Consider two guys: both are attractive, smart, have good qualities. The first one is a jerk that wants to get as many girls as he wants, the second one is a bit shy and doesn't have a lot of experience.

You know the second guy will take care of you better than the first one but who will you choose? I am more like the second guy and I noticed most girls want a caring guy like me but in order for me to get the girl I need to start off as a confident jerk. That's exactly the situation I came across recently, this girl likes me but dates some jerks and then she complains that all guys are jerks except me. So I need to become a jerk to date her but when we are together I should transform into a nice guy.

I just left her alone and she is apparently depressed because of this but I don't care. Are most girls like this or it is not that common?

Because I am an older Caucasian conservative, I am sometimes accused of being a xenophobe, racist, homophobe, and whatever other name my accuser may know. However, those people don't know me and they are making conclusions that suit their purpose: to put down and insult anyone who disagrees with them.

Contrary to what those people thought, over my lifetime, I have dated a few Jewish girls, a German girl, a Colombian girl, a Brazilian girl, a Filipino, and a lady from the Ukraine. All of them had some very nice qualities (obviously; why would I date a girl who was entirely bad?) However, with some of them, the cultural differences were simply too great to overcome and we parted ways. The failure of the relationship did not flow from any prejudice or bias against the lady; it was just a relationship that didn't work.

One of the Jewish girls was a JAP (Jewish American Princess); everything was all about her. The Colombian girl did not work out but not because of cultural differences; same for the Brazilian lady. I married the German girl but she was extremely materialistic and left within 2 weeks of me being laid off from my job. The Filipino was a very nice lady but I just felt no attraction to her (although I have seen many Asian women who I thought were extremely attractive!) The lady from the Ukraine was also annoyingly materialistic, perhaps as a consequence of growing up in the USSR where there was usually a shortage of some commodity. My current girlfriend was born in the US to two Jews from eastern Europe. We are extremely compatible. (Obviously, this is the typical modus operandi of xenophobic racists.)

What experiences have you had with dating outside of your race, nationality, or ethnicity? Did cultural differences make it more difficult to establish a comfortable dating relationship?