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I consider myself a high functioning adult these days; I was a professional "Composer/Recording Artist" for a number of years after gaining a PhD in Music Composition from Birmingham Conservatoire. However the money was sporadic at best so I changed careers and became a Chef, quickly rising through both the ranks and up the quality spectrum over 10 years to eventually become a Sous Chef at a 2* Michelin Establishment in London. However due to relationship responsibilities picking up (my fiance is a doctor and we both work 16hr days). Which would make having Kids... tricky to say the least. So I changed career again so I could maybe work from home. So now I am training to be an Ethical Hacker (Cyber Security Engineer). Anyway, my point is, most out people out there whom I have worked with, have always considered me very capable/dependable. So when they eventually find out that I come from a highly abusive background, they get taken aback... and some have even accused me of outright lying about it...( I can only assume that this is because "in their mind" you can't come from that kind of background and be anything other than dysfunctional...) Unusually, it's also often Women who have accused me of lying about this... and I am really not sure why... Guys tend to take it at face value (or even give me "props for not letting it affect me"). To clarify, my mum was diagnosed with Cancer when I was about 3, and my father was away on business abroad a lot, so I was only ever with her (watching her slowly fall apart), she died when I was 6.. my dad remarried, who I can only describe as a sociopath, she emotionally/mentally and physically abused me, gaslighting at every opportunity to make me and my father think we were loosing the plot.. I spent a lot of time believing I was having "black outs" because I couldn't remember hurting myself in the way she said..(because it was her). To this day I struggle a lot with trusting women.. I have to force myself to not assume the worst

I do think so to a large extent.
See in ancient times before we ruled , this world as we do now.( you know destroying it as we are doing.) We were weaker then some of the other inhabitants of this world. We were afraid. We drew our strength by cooperating , and collaborating with other just to survive. We knew that our people would come to our aid. We trusted.
I would Imagine lying , and dishonesty in all its forms were not as prevalent , if at all. This has changed. It is no longer so for life has been made easy , and convenient.
People have grown to distrust each other. It has become so bad it is even wrecking the balance of romantic relationships between the sexes. All relationships should be built on that ancient trust , and mutual goals for survival , but even more so the relationship between a man and a woman. Chemistry draws us together , but trust , respect, compassion, and balance keep us together. Its not an easy juggling act.
The advent of modern technology ( as in all the things that make life easy , and humans soft , and selfish.) has eroded these fundamental characteristics of society in all its aspects. there is nothing it doesn't affect once it arrives.
The internet is a a much larger beast eating away at the foundations of of our societies , and cultures. By bringing everything under the sun close , and in our faces. Bad behavior , good behavior , and all of everything in between.
We all know there is no going back. Once we start down a collective path we become an unstoppable juggernaut. Come what may I am sure time , and evolution will sort it out. I personally find it is indeed a very interesting time to be alive.