What am I doing wrong that I got so far and can set a date but never goes through and still hasn't been able to get a new boyfriend still?

[Anonymous]

I am doing anything wrong after the date seem to get canlded for one reason and then they some men did friendzone me and i rejected the friend and said I am not instersted in being friend. the other one guy didn't really confirm anything about date or anything to meetup. now my only opioton is trying the learning disabities dating site. i think is only way how i can mayb find a guy that isn't jerk, friendzoning and , I even tried chaning up my style. by the way going out in real life also didn't work with guy since one already has a girfriend and another guy wasn't instersted in relationship. that happen last year. this year has be very simlar of last year. I starting by text first and then asking qestion. I don't think my personality is the isuse. I always has be kind and stand up for my self and called out some people out for lying. can be a good dancing. like walking. Personality is not a issue helping animals out. I will help people out if they need help if anything that comes from technology. My Granny is older than me and alwaysasks her about advice and My granny always has better advice than my mum does. The difference with my granny always explains better than my mum d My granny did have friends that did have a learning disability. Somehow. I still not manage to get a boyfriend yet. why this still seems going no where but seems like always going on the love train that never goes the right way.

[Knighted2170]

One problem with dating sites is people tend to reject those they are compatible with because they believe someone better is going to come along. This was confirmed by a recent study by two Israeli professors in a pubished paper in the American Journal of Economics.

Without knowing more about your dating and relationship history it's hard to tell where things may be going wrong. All I can really do is give general common basics that I routinely see.

One of those is stating your intentions clearly at the end of the first date.

A second is trying to move to fast to soon. It comes across as being too needy.

A third one is not allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Sharing a few details about yourself, your experiences, and passions.

The fourth is being yourself. You mentioned changing your style. If you are changing to fit what you believe others want, you are not being authentic. Own who you are and don't apologize for it. Be you.

I know some of these may sound contradictory. It's a balancing act. You need to read the situation and time when and where it's appropriate to bring out each of these.

Like I said, without knowing details it's hard to pinpoint where things may be going wrong. It might be something you are missing, it could be the conversations, it could be the other person. It might be all of it combined.

[Asker]

I was very much direct and yet all guys have always seemed to cancel the date. I will be honest and never seem to go any but just friends. yes, I even tried to find a guy in real life and still got nothing but guy that got a girlfriend and another guy isn't looking for a relationship. I had 9 ex boyfriends. Somewhere cheater called them out when they lied about that I was cheater but I wasn't. I kinda get a date but some reason when they don't even want to meet up before that they want to have a relationship but now they are friends with me.

[Knighted2170]

With the information on your reply it's possible that you are not being totally clear on looking for a romantic relationship.

The other possibility is you are are too clear on it which can come across as being too needy.

Either one could have a person look at you as a friend rather than a romantic partner.

To get you a more of an exact answer will take a more in-depth conversation. It's not something I can do in 2000 characters. There are too many details and variables to consider. I think it would be best to do that by PM.

[kellytheman]

My advice is keep trying it's never easy finding someone to date than it seems. Just try keep being yourself and don't worry by not having a boyfriend or a date. Sometimes that can happen the least your expect it and usually those are the best ones. Your still young so you got enough time just gonna improve yourself and wait till the right guy comes along.

[Aerissa_Jade]

You may not be doing anything wrong at all, things do not always pan out. In fact they might quite often not pan out most the time.

I say be yourself, be friendly and outgoing and if someone does want to friendzone you, be okay with that. If your a good friend, they may reconsider down the road and want more. I've both had friends and been the friend that later on, things change.

It can be easier to start dating a friend later on, may take months or years than a stranger. I've had guys I was just friends with and started to fall for, wanting more and he felt the same way.

Try not to think of a goal of getting a boyfriend, the best boyfriends are also your best friend.

[Asker]

I don't get attractive to guy friends that were from a toxicwork place. I don't see the point of being a a friend if they said they want a relationship first thing after a big mistake. They just made me another guy. I also has a learning disabities. I got a unwanted attetion and creeps.

[Fireguy17]

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places.
If you are really serious about wanting to be in a relationship, what do you think about joining one of the better online dating sites. Those like eHarmony where you have to pay to join you tend to have more people that are serious about being in a relationship vs just hooking up.
You have to honest about yourself as well as the type of person you are looking for.
Finding the right or any partner can be a lot of work, and you kind of need to treat it as a job.
You get out of it what you put into it.
I live in a rural area, so the dating choices were not that great.
It worked for me, so hopefully it can work for you.

[Asker]

I already have tried paid dating sites but nothing yet and some of these dating were for learning disabilities but wasn't good. I also tried other dating sites as well and still nothing. I have a date with a guy with a learning disability. My mum put a limit on how I can date. I had 9 ex boyfriends.

[Honesttguy]

You need to learn how to read people, bodylanguage and everything personalities

[Asker]

I already tried this and didn't read very well and most of time i can't even tell if they instersted in me or just being friendly even one guy did has a girlfriend. other guy wasn't instersted in relationship.

[Shark_61695]

Worrying too much...

Life goes on and you have plenty of time to find someone who appreciates you for who you are.

[Asker]

I fon't I see as slut if i single or get called crazy. i only have limted about men to pick from. this not worrying too much. i just compaint.

[Shark_61695]

I have only been on a few dates and have lived in various towns and cities. Supposedly this would give almost limitless opportunities to find someone to date but I can't even get to the exchanging messages part.

I'm not entirely sure what your first sentence means but there is nothing wrong with being single and if people are calling you crazy, that is their issue not yours.

[Asker]

I live in town area where some guys are mosty are players or looking to fuck around with many women as possbile. I also has a learning disabities and i had limted my self to only guys with learning disabities.