Why can't I get a new boyfriend and I have done everything right, but it seems that things are beyond my control?

[TheSimFans]

I think it's because I had no control over it. i can do anything right and still has gotten close to getting a new boyfriend. Getting frustrated with some men that i can get them meetup but after they just stopped texting me evenly. i can't even control my strict mum that handle most of my dating and is very limited to only men with a learning disability only. that is also outside of my control. talking does nothing to mum since she still very strict and too overprotect. let my other two sister date or be in relationship who ever want to. my yonger sister could might as a learning disability that is unfair that i only one that follow her own for my own dating or relationship that i can't chose and she always rejected guys that i like. nothing will change my mum mind. So far, it has been my mum who has come along with me when I meet up with men. When I express my feelings about why I'm dating question type of men and when I'm told that mainstream will abuse and use me, my mother always treats me in a considerate manner. i told her that learning disability men can do just same thing as mainstream men. what do you through most of things outside of my control and that why can't get a new boyfriend?

[catiecatie]

Not going to lie but I’m kinda on the same boat. I do believe that this one guy is interested but I don't know if he has a girlfriend. Never brought her up or mentioned having a girlfriend. He does seem interested as we can joke with each other and not think about anything. He kept bugging me to tell him what my favorite college team was and he was from the rival school so I didn’t want to tell him. After I did he flat out goes I should’ve guessed that, but hey go and then the team. And then I flat out said that it’s still the old school mascot name. He said he agrees with that, but someone else picked up on the not wanting to tell him my college team. I will ask him for drinks but if he says no then I’m not worried about it.
There will be someone that comes into your life or you can take matters into your own hands and go on dating sites/apps. Best of luck though girl.

[Monalisa77]

I've got a lot of health issues my mums the same but sometimes it can come across as controlling. However i would advise trying to go out on your own or with friends if possible

[TheSimFans]

don't have many friends that with going out with or live too far way. not interest in going out with me.

[Monalisa77]

Thats my issue too, shame we dont live close by lol but i might tell a white lie to my mum in future lol

[Bricealan]

You may not REALLY want a new boyfriend... when you think about it. I have been divorced for several years and have had several 'women friends" that I liked very much, but did not want the 'relationship" that is involved with being intimate with someone and the commitment that follows.

Having a 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' in a Relationship, takes WORK. and MAYBE you are not down for that when you really examine your feelings about it. That is how I feel, and I won't want to 'project' my feelings on to you, but think about that and maybe there is a grain of truth in that. I think everyone can find an SO when they are really committed to doing so.

Just a thought.

[TheSimFans]

i want a boyfriend but so far gotten nowhere with men. i can get them to meetup but after is stopped right there

[Bricealan]

Stand your ground when it comes to meeting men. Don't think that the "problem' is with you. Talk to women friends, co-workers, that you trust and get other input from them. Hard to give you good information on the internet like this.

[TheSimFans]

don't have many friends that are women. i always do stand my ground and still hasn't gotten anywhere

[Bricealan]

I wish I could be more help to you, honestly I do.

[OfMiceandMen]

Sometimes things are beyond our control. My recommendation is to give it a break and let it come along naturally. If you focus on your own happiness for a while, the guy that you always wanted will show-up out of the blue. He's out there, you just haven't met him yet. The best life-lesson is patience, the old saying, "good things come to those who wait" comes to mind".

[TheSimFans]

i hasn't seen anyone or anyone that will approach me anyway. they just stare at me but don't approach. when i do approach some men they just rejected me or just reject me and put me in the friendzone. i have been wafting and so far nothing come to me.

[OfMiceandMen]

What you describe above happens to the rest of us too, you're not alone. Rejection is par for the course. You either keep at it, till it happens or take a break and come back.

[TheSimFans]

i already done both and still nothing seem to come my way and i do act friendly, smile and be kind.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would try the break again and just focus on making you happy. Let the whole trying to find someone go to the wayside. You are young and have lots of time for boyfriends.

[TheSimFans]

already has tons of break and so far nothing.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not sure what to do then.

[TheSimFans]

so i still can't get anywhere with men after meetup. so i should i be pisses off from men is there all i can do now. getting that way already.

[OfMiceandMen]

I guess you can if you want to, not sure where that will get you. The more pissed-off/bitter you get the more it comes out in your behavior. This may not work in your favor trying to meet guys, as they can often detect this in your tone/mannerisms and are less likely to chat you up.

[TheSimFans]

yet i learn not give a fuck and hide all my traits. so they can't even tell that im pissed off.

[OfMiceandMen]

That is why I suggest taking a break from the whole guy thing and work on your happiness, it can't be fun hiding how you really feel. If guys have pissed you off, then you have to disconnect entirely from trying to find someone (that means crash the dating site scene). Do something you enjoy, hang with some girl-friends, family, etc.

[TheSimFans]

i done most thing that i enyjoy.

[TooHot2Care]

So bra…. Somefin you gotta understand: Dating and fucking and relationships make for a shit goal.

Because at the end of the day, you aren’t dealing with an outcome that depends on you, it also depends on the other person.

[TheSimFans]

again i don't fuck and just dating.

[TooHot2Care]

That’s….. too bad. :/

Also, yeah if you don’t Fuck then dating isn’t for you.

Because us guys, especially the athletic ones you want…? We’re physical beings. We have needs.

You might wanna do friend groups and meet someone who can wait until marriage or something….

Or are you an ace?

[TheSimFans]

I'm never be interested in any athletic type of men. I don't have many friends. that also outside of my control. have try many group but nobody interest in me or interest in looking for relationship . fucking shouldn't that important and is not important to me. I'm not interested in men that started talking or asking sex question before we meetup. that just seem to just another pig.

[TooHot2Care]

Hmmmm…… I think you should explore yourself a bit more before you try relationships or dating.

Cuz you seem to have a bad relationship with sex and your interests don’t seem to gravitate you to possible friends.

Is it possible you have underlying trauma stopping you from making friends / having sex?

You don’t have to answer if you don’t feel comfortable.

[TheSimFans]

bad experience from one mainstream college that i have to stopped going to did bit inapparent. by dancing another men lap. then started crossing off. then i went to learning disability that has bad experience with friends with some women to used me to get my previous boyfriend to temp them to cheated on me and they were successful and as well of learning about std from my learning Disability college that went after.

[TooHot2Care]

It sounds like that event hurt you a lot more than you are letting yourself understand, and you are rushing into getting into a relationship and haven’t fully understood sex yet.

I think you need to slow down and figure yourself and your relationship to sex out.

[TheSimFans]

why is sex so imponent and what does matter for relationship. is just not impartment to me and will never be.

[TooHot2Care]

Before I answer that, I have a personal question for you : have you ever masturbated and reached an orgasm before?

[TheSimFans]

nope never hard any.

[TooHot2Care]

Experiment with masturbation first and reach orgasm, and then you will understand why sex is so important.

[TheSimFans]

is not and will never bye

[Mariena_Anne92]

Focus on yourself first and they will
Comes running to you.

[TheSimFans]

yep i already focus on myself. still can't get anywhere near.

[Mariena_Anne92]

Same here, dont worry, the right one will find you. U will be just perfect the way u are in the right person eyes. Until then keep focusing on yourself and never lose hope, but don’t lower your standard either. Don’t compromise just to get yourself a partner. Just be you❤️

[TheSimFans]

that very unrealistic right ther the right one will find you. is not a Disney movie's. is nothing like that. i already I'm me and already has Focus on me the most and still nothing.

[Mariena_Anne92]

Trust me on this, if u keep looking u will only finding the wrong one. I’ve been single for 6 years, I try looking and always end up with the wrong one. Now that I stop looking man starter throwing themselves at me 😂 i have several option but i dont think I’m ready to commit until they prove themselves worthy. May the best man win. And I believe u can do it too. Maybe u can start by being friends instead of focusing on finding new boyfriend or relationship. Be their friends and understand them better first.

[TheSimFans]

i already stopped looking and still seem nothing seem to be my option or very limited option. already has friends but not interest in me or anything do with relationship.

[peedy]

Nice guys/women finish last
I know it all to well been alone my how hole life chin up dont worry about it and get cat they are more loving and loyal

[TheSimFans]

i'm not a fake nice women or fake nice men. these are different. got tons of cats friends and dogs friends.

[king34]

I do king of understand your mother's concern. But I also understand how it can be rough for you, just hang in there and keep trying okay.

[RosyBeak100]

Your options are very limited. The choices you’ve made are now the consequences you will have to deal with for the rest of your life. I suggest you close your legs.

[TheSimFans]

that not me. i'm not whore.

[RosyBeak100]

I beg to differ

[TheSimFans]

how i don't fuck and never will.

[RosyBeak100]

Your biological clock is ticking

[RosyBeak100]

After 25, your eggs decrease by a huge significant amount

[RosyBeak100]

After that, it’ll be too late

[TheSimFans]

so what i 'm 24 . that got nothing do with relationship. fucking is for whore. got it or not.

[RosyBeak100]

You’re logic is skewed

[RosyBeak100]

Your*

[TheSimFans]

your logic is same crazy.

[RosyBeak100]

No just stating facts

[RosyBeak100]

Look at your original post.

[TheSimFans]

no i'm just with tru facts and your not true facts. false.

[TheSimFans]

true

[RosyBeak100]

Hahaha. This is why men have left you

[RosyBeak100]

You’re waiting for Prince Charming to rescue you

[TooHot2Care]

@rosybeak100 hi, I read this little conversation from start to finish.

Not only are you completely batshit insane, you’re also a bitch.

And you seem desperate to put another woman down for what the reason is? I do not care.

Points for originality, usually women online look for men to put down because they can’t get a date.

This girl is having guy troubles and she’s still being classy and understandable.

But you? I don’t understand you, you are base and I do not like you.

Now shoo.

@thesimfans ignore her, she a bitch

[RosyBeak100]

Says the tooHot2Care.

[TheSimFans]

@TooHot2Care i report her anyway. i stopped caring. she looking for attention or trolls.

[RosyBeak100]

Hello Chad

[TooHot2Care]

@thesimfans Ikr? She’s such a loser and a waste of hair….

[TheSpaceGnome]

It's difficult to find a good match.