Does anything I'm doing right help me get a new boyfriend?

[TheSimFans]

I don't mention anything about my ex boyfriend coming to meetups with men and getting in touch with them. Calling, texting, and video calling are available. By picking bad partners, I learn from my mistakes. Despite doing what I should, I can't find a new boyfriend. has be single. can get men to meetup with me but after the meetup is over nothing happens so im assuming he is not interested anymore. I have moved on. I'm honest and i also don't mentions that i tons of match or likes. What I'm doing right or not. That's why I can't get what I want since it's not my time.

[Anonymous]

It's important to remember that finding a new partner takes time and patience. It's not always easy to meet someone who is a good match, and it can be frustrating when things don't work out as we hope.

It's great that you are learning from your past mistakes and trying to approach new relationships with honesty and openness. Here are a few other things that you can focus on that may help you find a new boyfriend:

1. Focus on building meaningful connections: Instead of just trying to meet as many men as possible, focus on building deeper connections with the people you meet. Try to get to know them on a personal level and see if you share common interests and values.

2. Be yourself: It's important to be true to yourself and not try to change who you are to fit someone else's expectations. Be confident in who you are and what you have to offer in a relationship.

3. Practice good communication: Communication is key in any relationship. Be clear and honest about your intentions and expectations, and listen to your partner's needs and desires as well.

4. Take care of yourself: Make sure to prioritize your own self-care and well-being. This can help you feel more confident and attractive to potential partners.

Remember, finding a new partner is not a guarantee, and there may be factors outside of your control that are affecting your dating life. It's important to be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate the dating world.

[TheSimFans]

i done all these things and yet hasn't gotten close of getting new boyfriend kept always moving on from men that i meetup since they don't text after meeting up or they make exuse that might be too busy. i also got very strict mum that i can't even control but can't date men without a learning disability but has be men that has a learning disability only or i'm not allow to date or be in relationship. so far all men that did met part from one. all did same thing and i just assume threy not interested in having a relationship and then i started seeing red flags when men stopped texting me and just give up. I'm assume they not interest in anyone in real life since most of men that i met was my cheater ex boyfriend and men that already has girlfriends. has no problem with getting men when I was in college but I'm not in college anymore since i graduation from. part from bad experience with friendship and previous ex boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand but you can date whoever you want who you’re truly interested and invested for how you accept someone. It sounds like you've been trying your best to find a new boyfriend, but have faced some challenges along the way. It's understandable to feel frustrated and discouraged, especially when you've had negative experiences with past relationships.

It's important to remember that finding a compatible partner can take time and patience. It's also important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, and not settle for someone who doesn't treat you with respect and care.

In terms of your strict mother's rules about dating, it's important to have open and honest communication with her about your desires and needs. It may be helpful to have a conversation with her about why these rules are in place and see if there is room for compromise or negotiation.

Additionally, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through any past traumas or negative experiences that may be impacting your current relationships. They can also provide guidance and support as you navigate the dating world.

Remember to take care of yourself and focus on building a fulfilling and happy life, regardless of your relationship status. The right person will come along when the time is right.

[TheSimFans]

i also has try a few therapist but some didn't work out for me or won't willing. my mum doesn't let go of things that comes to me with dating. talking to does nothing and when i try express my feel and she just that excuse that some men are abuser. then my mum give me a the silent treatment what i hate the most nothing is honest about my mum will lie and be honest at the same time.

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like you're going through a challenging time with both your dating life and your relationship with your mother. It can be difficult when we don't feel understood or supported by the people closest to us.

It's great that you've tried therapy to work through some of these issues but it's understandable that not every therapist is a good fit. It may be worth trying a different therapist or approach to therapy to find something that works better for you.

Regarding your relationship with your mother, it's important to remember that you can't control how other people react or respond to you. However, you can control how you respond to them. It may be helpful to set boundaries with your mother and communicate your needs and feelings in a clear and assertive way. It's also important to remember that you deserve to have a supportive and respectful relationship with your mother, and if that's not possible, seeking support from other sources such as friends, family members, or a therapist can be helpful.

[stepyo99]

That's good that you're learning from your mistakes, many people are incapable of that. It could be a lot of reasons and not necessarily because of something you're doing wrong. The fact is that many modern men are very flaky or just looking to hook up and lose interest if they can't get in your pants during the date. So it could be that or it could be something you are doing that you haven't mentioned.

I wouldn't sweat it too much. As long as you're putting in effort to be a genuine person then you'll find someone good soon.

[TheSimFans]

what I'm doing wrong that i hasn't mention, can talk fine , smile sometimes and have vidoe call just fine. so are the men could be issue and not me. I'm not interest in getting sex question that get lot from. hasn't be interest in having sex. all my ex boyfriend were yong then me. i met up with men that were older then me and still hasn't lead to nothing.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It sounds like the things you're doing right are just hiding the stuff that usually gives guys red flags. Still doing it though.

Usually, women that pick bad partners don't acknowledge that the problem is them... they picked those partners.

[TheSimFans]

yet i said in my question i learn from my mistake for picking the wrong partner. so i don't get. what I'm hiding is that just pissed offs a lot men. is that answer what you were looking for then. doing anything right by tell men that i go with men to meetup with them and as well and can't even men that don't have a learning disability since i got a stupid learning disability. that i don't even want but still has one. i have to date men with a learning disability because of my strict will not allow me other chocise.

[tzdc21]

Normally, when a woman says she gets guys to meet up but they aren't interested to continue things, it means that she was leaning in with the wrong things or she has the wrong attitude. A lot of times it's due to the fact that many women don't know what men want and unfortunately don't even try to learn. Have you ever asked those guys what they are looking for in a partner? Or have you invested into them in anyway, shape or form?

[TheSimFans]

I have to try to ask what they want but they always ask me first what I want. I also put in my online dating profile that I'm looking for long-term relationships. That's what I've been doing a lot. So far I've gotten nothing from men. I also know what I want from men and what I don't want from.

[tzdc21]

Well just because they ask you first doesn't mean you can't ask them afterwards. Just you asking alone will make you stand out from a bunch of other women who don't even think to ask the question. Not an automatic guarantee for a relationship but it's a great start. Go online and look for videos for what men generally want, or post a question right here on gag and let the guys answer, use Google. There's more than one way to gain information. But make sure it's men who are saying this stuff. It'll go a longer way.

[TheSimFans]

I had a lot of guys channels on YouTube. Just go for older guys since younger men don't seem to care about it.

[TheSimFans]

that i watch but do have to have to hide from my mum since she is one of feminist and is very strict with only me that got a learning disability.

[tzdc21]

Well I wouldn't necessarily say go for only older. There's a bunch of men who are younger that do care. But do what you want

[OfMiceandMen]

Finding the right person takes time. Patience is important. I am not a fan of online dating stuff. I think you are more apt to find someone in your everyday life/routine than someone online.

[TheSimFans]

can't find anyone that is looking for relationship in real life. most of guys already has girfirends that i did attend a youth club and met my cheaters ex boyfriend there to. has try work but is not allow to date or be in relationship with people from work. one guy was a sexist pig. i got nothing going from love life in real life. that is only reason that i do online dating since i can't find one anyone interst or attracted to.