Why aren't I able to get anywhere near getting a new boyfriend that I want?

[TheSimFans]

So far i only been online dating since i did i kept meeting men in real life from youth club. i have missed two meetup that is aim for learning disability in Manchester. my town is Warrington and only has youth club but both learning disability and mainstream people go there. i met one of my ex that was from nothwich youth club and i got 9 ex boyfriend. that was only one good guy but ended it anyway that one from college. the other rest with trash and some were a cheaters. Trying to find a new boyfriend and taking breaks from online dating but can't seem to get anything done. So far, I have also found very limited options for people with learning disabilities and most guys would rather be friends and not interested in dating or a relationship. I think tiktok is one of the social media to blame that they don't even want to have a relationship. some women on tiktok since they complain about men all time when to approach them but also complain when they don't approached. i do kept missing the option and that why i can't find any real good guys in real life or online dating? Yup, I'm still single by choice even though I don't want to be single. I've been getting men who are short and unattractive to tall men so far. I am not attracted to them anyway. A short guy or an avenge guy would be preferred. Additionally, we saw some men who were clearly lying about their own height on online dating profiles. It seems that i can't get what i want without men getting what they want i want to get what i want first instead but never happen with me first. It takes a very long time to get close to getting a new boyfriend.

[Lliam]

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. I wasn't interested in marriage, so I just wanted a girlfriend.

It wasn't until my mid-30s that I started thinking about finding a life partner and settling down.

After a breakup with a girl when I was 38, I heard of a dating organization where you could check people's photos and profiles. This was pre-internet. And the photos were taken by the organization, so they weren't Photoshopped or anything.

Just asking girls out randomly to see if we got along seemed like a long shot, so I joined the org. That's how I wound up meeting my wife.

So I'm wondering what dating sites are available in the UK
Here are some possibilities.
https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/life/1566966/best-dating-sites-uk-evg-eact

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO. I wish you success in finding a wonderful partner who loves you and tearts you right.

[LickwidSkie]

Honestly, based on my personal experiences and the experiences of people I know, finding good and caring people to be in relationships with can be difficult. I think this is especailly true when people are younger. Most people I know were in several relationships before they found the person they married, and even then sometimes their spouse ended up not treating them well. You just have to keep trying until you find the right person. All the hurt inbetween really sucks, but unfortunately that's just part of dating.

[TheSimFans]

I already has lots of previous fail relationship. i'm also limited what i do since my mum is very strict with me only dating type of men that have to be a learning disability.

[LickwidSkie]

Why is that? Does she feel like a guy without a learning disability would take advantage of you?

[TheSimFans]

yep and my mum is never easy with me at comes to dating. talk about abuse, get mad an annoyed when i ask a simple question about why can't i date men without with a learning disability. my mum also got annoyed that learning disability can has be abuser and be verbal abuser.

[LickwidSkie]

It might be a good idea for her to talk to a counselor about her feelings on this issue. It might help both of you come to agreeable terms on it.

[TheSimFans]

That didn't work when I tried to be a therapist multiple times and hasn't worked. It was it. My so on set her way with only me that comes dating. Can't travel but I really want to. She doesn't bother helping with learning disability dating sites. That I did find. So I just give up and ignore most of the time and that also backs fire.

[LickwidSkie]

Well, that's pretty bad. It doesn't sound like anything is going to make her give you any leadway. Mothers can be very over-protective and when it gets to an extreme like that it can be extremely frustrating.

[TheSimFans]

yep even more extremely when comes to having a learning disability. she always change mind about stuff. one min she will calls but next day change her mind and not calling the dating sites that i aim for a learning disability. she ok with traveling from different countries if holiday or vacation. she only seem to be like with me but with my two sister. one is older and one is younger. i also get ignore the most since i'm also middle child of both my sisters. yet i annoyed when i ignore. i been on video games.

[LickwidSkie]

Have you tried the guilt trip approach? Asking her if she wants you to be lonely and miserable your who life.

[TheSimFans]

yep i even did guilt and went as far of hurting my self. that miserableand anoyied. she has be verbal abuse and abuse. hitting me making up excuse , bumping into me making up excuse. did same back. swearing i did both ways. fuck off mostly time and screw you and bitch. hasn't even lead way. even went as puppy faces and still no and she has given the silent treatment multiple time. now i just used my angry at her most time but sometimes is does and other times doesn't.

[LickwidSkie]

Well that just sounds like she's abusive. That's a whole different story. Maybe you should call one of those help lines and ask them what to do.

[TheSimFans]

she would do same thing with me if i did call the help line.

[LickwidSkie]

Hmm... well yeah, being that you're a legal adult you don't really have the advantage you would if you were still a minor. That probably wouldn't end well for you. She needs to realize though that she needs to treat you like an adult though because chances are, barring any abnormal circumstances, she's going to pass away before you do, and her not giving you room to take care of yourself isn't setting you up well for when that happens.

[TheSimFans]

Also, I am paid by the town council and can't cook in the oven. Can I do meals in microwaves? So it's just impossible to pin on her since she always pins on me.

[LickwidSkie]

When you say you get paid by the town council, do you mean it's like getting disability payments because you're unable to work?

[TheSimFans]

Yep similar to disability payment but I have to work on a fake job to ger paid by council.

[LickwidSkie]

Oh I see. I think here when you're considered disabled they don't require you to work, but if you earn over a certain amount they start taking it out of the benefits and you might end up losing them altogether.

[Bricealan]

I would avoid on-line dating as it is always disappointing. You are better off to meet men face to face and you and they know what they are getting, without all of the hide-and-seek on line.

You are 24 and should be in your prime. Don't get discouraged so quick.

[TheSimFans]

yep i through i mention that i already has try in face to face and hasn't be very success with real life men that are not interested in relationship. just more interested in being friends. i live in town that is very limted events and social events for learning disability. type of men that i can only date is learning disability only. not many guys younger or older then me are not that interested in dating or be in a relationship.

[Bricealan]

@TheSimFans BTY... thank you for inviting me to answer

[MuskratLove]

Online dating is the worst of the worst. Guys carpet bomb with copy and paste messages, and the women fall for it. A guy can easily message 200 women in an hour. Then he can play video games for a few hours, come back, pull in the net and see how many sucker fish he caught. Then he chooses the pick of the litter, bangs her, and throws her back in the sea. Then the sucker fish will blame ALL guys for her own stupidity, and become jaded. It's just a vicious cycle. You're right, the real world is scary, but it's the only way it works. No pain, no gain.

[Bricealan]

You are in the UK, correct? I am not sure I understand, do you, yourself have a learning disability? Not meaning to pry, just so I understand your situation.
When I found myself in a situation that I could not really 'go anywhere" I pulled up stakes and moved across the country to California, and my entire life changed.
Could you find a way to relocate to a more 'social' area where you could meet more people?
You many private message me if you like, but I am not sure I can give you anything that might help you change your social environment. Please do, though, if that might help you.

[Bricealan]

@MuskratLove That online dating mess is okay at a certain age, if you don't mind getting dumped on. Here is my feeling. When in my teens, and 20's, I really did not have a problem meeting eligible women and girls. TheSimFans, is young and hopefully if she could move to a more 'social area' she would have access to more men her age and status. What do you think?

[MuskratLove]

@Bricealan
The ONLY time I recommend online dating, is when the person lives out in the sticks. There's a few small towns outside the city, and they have to rely on online dating. If you're 80 miles from the city, that means you'll have to travel 160 miles. It's easier to just give up. So in those cases, I recommend online dating. Get to know the person very well, and then maybe meet half way. And maybe even spend the night in a motel. I'm not talking about sex, I just mean it's more practical than driving home.

[TheSimFans]

yep i'm in from uk. i can't relocate since my mum is very stubborn that comes to dating and is very strict with only me. i got two younger sisters and older sisters that already has move out with her boyfriend. younger one be out to Manchester. i can only go to places like Manchester, Liverpool and northwich. that are very near my town. can't travel by USA by airplane since my mum will refuse.

[Bricealan]

@MuskratLove I lived with a college classmate that I met as an undergrad. She moved her to CA from Ohio and we drove out together. She did a lot of on-line hook ups and got laid a lot as a result, but never had a real solid relationship as a result. Too many problems for most men to deal with including myself. I still prefer face-to-face meetings and then there are no 'surprises" at least from appearances that is.

[TheSimFans]

@MuskratLove yet i already has try real lfe and just disspont and very unfair for me since im very limited to men that can date. none of guys that i met so far in real life has be taken or more interested in being friends and they not interested being dating or relationship thanks to tiktiok and social media that don't approach anymore in real life and i have approach men too and always rejected me. can't travel outside of UK.

[TheSimFans]

disappointed

[MuskratLove]

@thesimfans
It's a numbers game. Just don't give up. And don't try too hard. You don't find love. Love finds you.
It won't find you on the couch, so you have to get out there. Just don't give up.

[TheSimFans]

@MuskratLove is won't happen min real life since most of my type of men got girlfriend already. i don't sit on couch and i can't even find anyone in real that isn't immature , idolt and have type of mental heath issue. i don't want anymore bad , very big ego men don't want a very tall men since they are ugly to me. you don't get it do you.

[Bricealan]

@MuskratLove 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍Good show, Mustrat!!!

[Juxtapose]

You are so right about tiktok deterring men.

[TheSimFans]

yep but i still i'm singlr so far i approach men but most men just want to be just friends zone me. also happen with some dating apps for learning disability. also has be rejected more then one with men

[TheSimFans]

single

[wowop99266]

And why is short synonymous to unattractive for you?

[TheSimFans]

Is not. Look again.