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Like people tell me all the time that I’m negative and I’m going to find someone. But I think there’s something about me that isn’t likeable to the opposite sex. I’m told I’m pretty and what not but never attract men. And when I do attract one occasionally, it’s by a guy that I don’t find appealing. I’ve tried the apps and they don’t work, I don’t have friends so there is no way to meet people. I’m 25 and never had a boyfriend, I’ve never met someone worthwhile and I don’t think I will at this point. In fact, that’s what my gut tells me. I just never get approached like other women, I’ve even spoken to a psychic and counselor, all tell me the same cliche shit. I think (know) I’m cursed.

A friend of mine and I were discussing whether opposites attract. She says no, but she's been in some shitty relationships. I say they have to be opposing compliments, one making up for the other's lack. What do you guys think? Unrelated fun photo!

EX broke up last month. Came back+said he didn’t want to lose me&thought he could get over me, but started drugs to feel better even though we were together for only 2 months+had been close friends for a year. he felt lost&said that he needs me. I said why did u let me go. He said bec we were different people +opposites never attract. he said that I had small flaws in my personality that made him feel guilty. he didn’t want to lose me as a friend. He wanted us to become friends like we were. He told me not to cry because that’ll make him weak.. he kissed me twice on my upper lip lightly& lingered a little. I said if he wanted friendship-kissing me is wrong. He also kissed me on my forehead several times, and on my hands twice. He grabbed my hand a lot as I sobbed. I said we should cut off contact for me to be able to see him as a friend bec I need to get over it. He flipped out+ said i will never be back. He asked how long, I said for as long as it takes to feel better.
when I got home he texted me saying he’s not sure whether or not he made the right decision. I said I respected his decision even if it meant that we won't be together. He said he needed me by his side I said I won’t leave, he also said he’s my man+ will remain that forever&that I am his lover, sister, mother and best friend& that he knows i was the only person who truly cared about him + was worried about him. He said he loved me several times. BUT he told my friend earlier that he wanted nothing more than friendship. She thinks he said that only bec he doubted she told me everything. I promised I will be back, but I don’t think I’ll be able to.. I think he lost me. He was too selfish with me, he said I did nothing drastic to ruin the relationship. He had been hurt from other women&has built a wall around himself for protection. He’s a big selfish taker, I am a HUGE supporter and giver. He knows& says that.

Is there a chance that he might come back? What did the kiss mean?

Many men complain about the OkCupid study that found that men rate women as much more attractive than vice versa.

These men say that it's because women are more shallow, but I say it's because of the opposite: Men care more about a partner's appearance, and women know that, so they work harder when it comes to their appearance. Since they work harder, OF COURSE they'll be rated as more attractive.

This is the same reason many women will say that gay men are hotter than straight men: gay men, seeking to attract men, put more effort into their appearance than straight men, who seek to attract women, who care less about looks.

It's also why lesbians are often seen as less attractive than straight women. Lesbians don't need to put as much effort into their appearance because they're seeking to attract women, who care less about looks.

Once I did a poll asking how much time people spent in their online dating pictures. Most men said they spend 5 minutes or less, whereas most women said they spent more than that. When it comes to your online dating profile picture, how much time do you typically put into looking good for the picture?

Men expect their quick selfies to be rated equally as attractive as women's pictures that women spend time into looking good for?

Those are my thoughts. What are your thoughts on why women rate men as less attractive than vice versa?