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Okay. We've both just got out of our first serious relationships and I don't know lol I'm terrible at this. I literally have no game anymore which doesn't bug me, I want someone to want me how I am, no fronts and she seems the same. I let her know early that I'm very uncomfortable with affection until I really trust them and slowly but surely we've become affectionate over the past month. We go on dates and such and talk about relationship stuff often and how we work. I don't text much because I think it's worthless communication when I see Her as often as I do and can speak face to face so I use it mainly to schedule. Weve also established early on we don't want to rush into things. I'm very reserved and have been described as cold/intimidating by just about everyone until they know me well and she's pretty reserved as well, just a bit warmer. We play around a lot physically like play fighting and piggy back rides etc. We talk for hours when we're together just bullshitting and sharing our thoughts. There is sexual tension there and we've even brought up sex quite a bit in our recent conversations. She remembers just about everything I've ever said and listens to me very intently. I want someone to be "best friend" worthy before I completely invest myself in her and she's mentioned things of the sort as well. I'm really starting to develop feelings for her and she's been very patient with me warming up to her but I can't help but feel I've discouraged her/pushed her away a little. I really don't want to screw my chances with her because God damn she's incredible. I believe nothing worthwhile has ever happened in a couple days and I'm happy with the way things are playing out. I just think she may feel like she's walking on eggshells or that she's losing interest. I tend to overthink things and I don't know Were both only seeing eachother and have been seeing eachother for a month now and I just want to know if I'm doing alright.

First of all I live an odd/interesting life & lifestyle.. But it's fun.
I have a wife & my best friend (female) has a husband.
My best friend is my wife's best friend from high school.
Them two have drifted apart. Their personalities & what they like to do for fun has never been more opposite. My wife is very conservative & doesn't do anything that has the possibility of getting hurt or killed. I on the other hand am somewhat liberal & will do so extreme (to her) stuff. I. e tornado chase, sky dive, bunjee jump.
The best friend & I have pretty much the same personality. She is the female version of me. Her husband is basically the male version of my wife. The wife & the other husband have become good friends & go to political functions, or whatever conservative people do. I don't think they have cheated. I know i haven't. There may have been some interesting close calls between the best friend and I, but something always interrupts us. The usual looking deeply into each others eyes after an adrenaline rushed activity then something happens. Usually a loud or an odd noise snaps us out it.
Last weekend we all were drunk and the other husband brought the idea of doing a spouse swap. It was clear all of us were separating emotionally, physically from our spouses. So none of us even got angry at the notion. If fact we all are still thinking about it. We've seen each other naked so there will no surprised there.
I love my wife. Mainly because she is my wife and your supposed to. Same goes with the other couple. If I were to meet my wife now as if we were single I would probably just want to have sex with her ( she's hot) but i wouldn't date her for long. She wouldn't have been my type. The best friend on the other hand would be more of my type. She is sexy and has all the same interests as me.
Could we all still be friends if we did a partner swap? I think so, if it was a mutual agreement between all 4 of us.

I would like your thoughts on this. Would you?