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So I've been seeing this guy for a few months now and in the beginning there were some hiccups / scares that made him wanted to end things. We almost ended things a few times. We video called quite a few times for a couple hours which usually sometimes ended up sexual. He has never been in a proper relationship before and he told me he deals with anxiety and he can be an asshole/push people away. He has told me things like he thinks about doing cute shit together etc.

there's been some things that didn't add up.. for example he would call me his girl to others but won't say were a couple when i asked. When we would want to end things the other person would want to make it work. So the last time i said i wanted to end things and he didn't want to and make things work which was a month ago.

Everytime we see each other we always ended up doing something sexual and one time i didn't want to and he was trying to persuay me. He told me he likes me , would compliment me a lot and would want to see me. Even told some of his family about me and friend. He recently told a family members partner about me while he was a bit drunk.

Anyways recently we ended up going all the way and it didn't work out because we were in a car and he tried doing things but gave up easily.

He said it was embarrasing and dissapointed about it. One thing lead to another he ended things and been feeling like this at first 2 weeks then it became a month. He told me he doesn't see a future with me/doesn't feel as strongly as i do, and i wasn't his type. He told me all of this a few minutes after we attempted to go all the way.(before he even agreed to do it a few times before making a decision on what to do)

Prior to that i noticed his texting was off and wasn't saying goodmorning/night etc. When i asked if were good he told me we were. He said he was afraid to tell me because he didn't want to "break my heart"

My boyfriend and I are in a kind of open relationship. We are dating each other, I live in his home, I go to family events, we are extremely close. We have an adventures sex life and I kinda like sharing. Before the pandemic the idea was to experiment this with other girls we meet at bars or tinder and such. Unfortunately, the pandemic kind of ruined that. Eventually it came up that he wanted to sleep with his ex-girlfriend we will call her... Patricia. I was okay with just sex- I’m confident in my relationship, and myself to put aside that because I was actually okay with it. Well lately Patricia and him aren’t just having sex anymore. They go out to dinner, they drive around and “talk”, they hangout. Yes he says he tells me before they do anything but he works for himself which means he has spare time quite often. I don’t want to seem like the insecure, jealous girlfriend. I don’t want to be clinging on to him or seem needy. I want to be confident in myself and my relationship. Previously when I learned about this I made a comment like “seems more than just sex.” His response was “yeah, we are friend.. I can have friends right?”.

Is this wrong of me to be feeling like no you can’t. Like I feel like he has more freedom then anyone else but wants to “hang out and be friends with her”. I am jealous and I am scared. Should I mention this to him? Is it wrong of me to not want him to be friends with her? How/what should I say?