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So I'm a part of a college Christian youth group and I'm worried that one of the guys in that group likes me. At first I just had a hunch because of eye contact and his body language, but I didn't want to be narcissistic, so I just brushed it off and convinced myself I was imagining things or overthinking him just trying to be nice. In the past week, he has made an effort to go out of his way to be nice or chivalrous to me on many occasions. Even to the point of waiting for me to drive off first so that I would lead the way. In our group chat on messenger he reacts to every single one of my messages, even when it's mainly girls just sending hearts. He doesn't do this to anyone else. And he doesn't pay as much attention to anyone else either. For a few reasons, he is not and will never be attractive to me (I don't mean this physically). He is not a person that I could ever see myself with. In our church people don't really date unless they're looking to eventually find the right one to marry and think the person they're about to date might be them. We don't just date for fun or cause it feels nice to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. So it's pretty serious when you have a guy show any interest. I'm totally freaking out because (1) he's 24, I'm 19... it's not creepy, but he's ready for marriage, I'm not. (2) I have about 4 more years of school ahead of me before I want to marry so that means I probably wouldn't be dating anyone for another two years. (3 ) I'm interested in someone else... Who, yes doesn't know or probably like me back, but I would never be able to even consider feelings for someone else while I still like him. (4) one of my close friends likes him, and if she found out she'd be devastated. (5) I don't want this to get dramatic and explode in our group. I don't want people to find out and cause more issues. (6) I don't want to hurt him, just because I don't like him that way, doesn't mean I don't have a soul or that I don't care.

I’m talking to this guy (I’m blond) because literally all 3 of his past girlfriends have been blond but recently he’s been nice to this black girl who recently joined our class.

Cause why does he not be as nice to the other black girls or pay them as much attention? Not to mention the other guys seem to also like her or be nice to her

do they think she’s pretty or something?

I understand that there are people who are okay with splitting (me included because I have a job too). Some others get offended in a way if a woman offers to pay, they feel like their masculinity is being taken off. (I respect both situations, and I understand the last one because I know that for them is a way to show that they appreciate you).
I honestly don't care if i pay or not, I can afford it and I don't mind at all doing so. However, what should I do or say to not be awkward or disrespectful? How should I phrase it?
At first you don't know what type of man he is, and what he prefers. Should I offer or stay silent?