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A friend of mutual friends has just come back to the US from years in Australia. Now a number of people have referred to him as hilarious, he's better than his siblings, etc. I've heard one say he's a troublemaker.

Now I'm someone who gives people the benefit of the doubt until they do something that crosses lines anyway so the 'troublemaker' dub isn't a factor. I go off 'instinct' more as I have got a very good judge of character.

And the two times I've encountered him I haven't been impressed.
Thing is, we haven't said a word to each other. I am just going off observations. He hasn't actually done anything offensive (hasn't been rude), he isn't threatening, and he dresses decent enough. There's nothing that easily comes to mind... I just him a bit off-putting.

So am I being too judgmental or not?

We have been friends with benefits since fall 2018. We were friends before that. He made a move one day and it's become an ongoing thing. We've been monogamous. We said we'd stop if we start seeing someone else. He's hasn't. We spend a lot of time together. We've grabbed food and drinks, we've gone for drives, we've gone on hikes too. We have conversations about ourselves. We always get intimate because we can't keep our hands off eachother. I've met friends when he took me golfing one day. He said he didn't know they were there even though he goes with them every Sunday. He said they liked me. I haven't met his family. His sister has seen me before when he invited me over to his house one day to help him/keep him company while he worked on his construction project. She was home but I wasn't formally introduced. She was waiting for me in the front bay window when I arrived. But left when I went inside. He said it felt weird having me over. His parents weren't home but they are rarely home anyways. He has stayed the night at my house before. He sleeps over when my parents are on vacation. He stayed this past weekend. He arrived from his vacation that same day so he went home to drop off his luggage, shower, grab some things and came straight over. He was messaging me a lot throughout his vacation, telling me what he was doing and showing me pictures. When he stayed over, we drank, played games and watched a tv and were sexually intimate a few times throughout the evening. He fell asleep spooning me on the couch. I had to wake him up so we could go my bed. When we got there he continued spooning me and fell asleep again. He woke up in the middle of the night, he caressed me awake and we were intimate then fell asleep for a few more hours. When we woke up, he watched tv and I made him breakfast - waffles from scratch. We continued watching tv until he left to go home. He also brought me back a souvenir.