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Devon is 23 years old. he's a people's pleaser and always wants to be perfect and do the right thing. In middle school and high school his parents always pressured him to study, work and take extra classes after school. He had no friends, no girlfriend, and barely any hobbies because all he did was study, work, take tests and study extremely hard to get accepted into college. He left with a GPA of 3.7. He was extremely depressed about it and his dad told him he was an ugly failure. Devon hasn't cried since he was 9 years old because his parents told him men and boys are not supposed to cry and encouraged him to suppress his emotions and study hard for college. Devon often bottled up his emotions and pretended to be happy in public. His best friend died, dog died, he was bullied, failed tests, broke his arm, ruined his car but he did everything he could not to cry. His parents also made him join sports teams and beat him for cuddling and hugging another guy. Devon hated sports, he loved cooking, sewing and building things he wanted to make dresses but his parents said that was gay and disgusting. At 23 he graduated out of college with a Bachelor's degree and found out he was 189 thousand dollars in debt. Finally he had a mental breakdown. he screamed at the top of his lungs and sobbed/ screamed uncontrollably for four hours straight. He never felt so terrible and the pain was almost unreal. He couldn't talk for days and tried to overdose on pills. He was rushed to the hospital and his parents were horrified. Devon cried for another two hours, he never felt so terrible a day in his life. Devon also noticed he cried so hard that he used the bathroom on himself twice in front of doctors.

He couldn't get a job with the Bachelor's degree he had, so he moved in back with his parents and got a job working at Walmart making only 8 dollars an hour.

Well, I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now. These are the reasons I think he might be bi:
1) People in high school thought him and his best friend were gay.
2) He admits his best friend is an attractive guy.
3) He tells me he thinks his best friend is gay, but just does not know or is not open to it yet.
4) Every single time they are together, I see pictures of him on snapchat. He never posts me on it.. Rarely. Today his best friend was playing piano and he posted a video of him with heart eye emojis. Following by a picture of him near the water... One detail: there wasn't just the 2 of them there. His other friend was there and he did not care to take pics of him either.
5) Once we were on friendsy app, and i saw he had clicked date and hook up for guys. Then, i asked him about it and he said he was joking around.
6) He said if he was gay he would date his best friend.

One time we were laying down (at the beginning of the relationship) and we were talking about sexuality. And he mentioned "Love is love, it doesn't matter with who. Guys or girls. If you fall in love, it's real!" And I said "have you ever fallen in love with a guy then?" and he "no, but if i do.."
I said "Well, would you date a transgender person?" He said "No"
And I said "Oh so you're just bi? Then you're not pansexual" (i had just learned about this new sexuality... i was trying to get something out of him)
Then he decided to take everything back and tell me he is straight.

Any thoughts?

I have a friend who I've known for about three years now but only recently gotten close to for the past three months. We have flirted a lot ever since we got to know each other more at a festival and now it's gotten too dangerous for me personally. I've crushed on a lot of straight girls but none of them have reached the level where I start to question if they have started to fall for me too.

Several of our mutual friends have told me that she seems to like me romantically even before I admitted that I actually like her too. They turn silent whenever she flirts with me (she points out that we have "chemistry" together, and even randomly cuddles with me despite the fact that she isn't touchy with anyone else). She also winks at me a lot, which she seldom does to anyone else. Basically, she just treats me differently to all of her friends in general and tends to focus on me even when she's with her friends...

Yesterday I got really confused when she told me that I was her best friend and I quote, "... possibly more than that".
She doesn't know I'm gay but I've flirted back numerous times so she might (?) know...
Any suggestions on how to deal with this? Also recently I realized that she might not be as straight as I think because she has opened up about being open to having either relationship (homo/hetero)

Should I tell her how I feel and be honest with her or wait for her to tell me?