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So basic story had sex got the girl pregnant she had it and I left, yes shitty thing to do but it happened let's move past that.

Me and the mum have been talking, she's basically said this is my last chance if I refuse to be involved (she said this a few times) he's 6 now and does look a lot like me and acts a lot like me apparently she might just be guilt tripping me.

So I've said I need time to think about it, BC we have both agreed that if I get involved I need to be regularly there and not meet him once or twice and leave.

Ok so am just really looking for advice on what to do, since I don't know if it's a good idea since I can't guarantee how regular I am going to be and am not sure if I want to be a dad, I've never been one or had much of one so not sure if I want to.

I just have this massive conflict going on in my head of saying be there for the kid it'll be good for him to have a dad and on the other side saying you will ruin your life and hurt the child if you get involved.

What's do you guys think and please don't just say be a good dad if I get involved am really not expecting to be good at it, more just there I guess.

My question is simple & open for this discussion of course.

You fall in love with a friend of yours, you let them know how you really feel in the last couple of months, but they never thought of you being more than just a friend, & they definitely don't feel the same way too, specially when you know you almost have 0% chance of being more than friends. Even if that feeling has been for almost a year now. And it's almost impossible thinking about that person as just friends anymore no matter how hard you try to convince yourself there isn't anything else.

You love & care so much about that special person it seems impossible to let go. What would you do in this case?

Please consider that staying friends with someone you love might have several consequences on your futur life when being in love with someone that hard.

1- it will eat you alive frome the inside knowing you have no chance of becoming more than just friends.

2- you'll be hurting yourself everyday specially when the day comes & you find them with someone else so it might kill you emotionally.

3- you will be hurting only yourself thinking about that person everyday & keeping them all the time in you mind & heart when that person barely showing signs that they care about you not even 10% of what you're showing to them.

4- if you stayed friends it will be so hard for you to find someone else & if you did, you might ruin that relationship because of your love to your friend.

5- this friendship causes more harm than good

Personally I think its a waste of time. Let them burn in their ignorance tbh. Like these women that say "aLl mEn aRe tRaSh, tHey AlL cHeAt", just let them get old, fat, and single. They know what they're doing and they're doing it intentionally so why bother trying to reform them. Just let them ruin their own lives and have nothing to do with them 🤷🏽‍♂️. But thats just my opinion. What are yours?