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For the guys, did your anyone ever teach you how to approach and flirt with women or have you just learned on your own?

For the girls, did anyone ever teach you how to get a guy to notice and approach you or have you learned on your own?

I meet a lot of guys who are either clueless or not confident enough to approach women. It’s very rare for me to meet a woman who’s confident enough to introduce himself to any woman, anywhere at any given time. I taught myself how to do this a while ago when I got fed up with not being confident enough to put myself out there and get myself a date and watching guys today makes me want to teach my sons when I have them because it’s so incredibly easy once you’re used to the process.

Anyway. Who taught you how to attract the opposite sex or how did you learn?

This is what I want in a long term relationship with a woman:

- financially independent but can work with me synergistically.
- exercises and diets well on most days.
- attractive enough that I want to have sex with her on regular basis.
- open minded to debate, but fights fair. Can be opinionated but not judgmental to point she cares more about being right vs. what IS right.
- no serious addictions. I've had a few minor issues with this, but it doesn’t control my life. So I will give her leeway for some sins. But I dated an alcoholic one time and I will never do it again.

In my entire life I have only dated one girl who fit all of these. But tragically we met me at the wrong time in my life and I ended up screwing it up. I owned up to that when we broke up.

However over 95 percent of the women I’ve met before and after her date me for the following shitty reasons:

- financial support
- briefly date and then friendzone. They try to keep me as orbiter for their own conceited bullshit reasons
- they are broken and looking for a “savior”.

I just feel that as a man I’m at an inherent disadvantage because women have more room to be choosy thanks to differences in sex drives.

As a man am I really expected to “settle”. I know a bunch of girls will say “oh follow your heart”. But they are 100% clueless on what dating is like for guys.