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····•• BACKGROUND ••····

A day or two ago, the September Editor of the Month award was given to an Editor who has literally NEVER posted ANY content under his own username. The award was based ENTIRELY on myTakes he posted as "anonymous".

When the award was given, this Editor was -- of course -- NAMED as the winner.
Not only was he named, but he was also IDENTIFIED as the author of several of these -- purportedly "anonymous" -- myTakes.

In other words, his anonymity was suddenly revoked... at least for the myTakes mentioned in the award thread.

····•• THE QUESTION/ISSUE ••····

If "editor of the month" includes anonymous work, then...

... the "community" aspect of the site is undermined, since the community can't really engage meaningfully with the author;

and, MUCH more importantly,
... the integrity of the "Anonymous" label -- and, by extention, the integrity of the site itself -- is tarnished.
I don't think this particular editor really cares, but, I'd imagine that MOST anonymous authors choose to be anonymous for a reason -- and I think it's important to respect that choice.
To me, at least, it's a violation of trust to suddenly NAME anonymous authors -- even under the guise of giving an award.

Is this OK? What do you think?

He and his ex were best friends for a few years, dated for a few years, and then fizzled out because of the long distance and a few other fights. But it was starting to get better right before he broke up with her (half to date me, half because it was a hard relationship). Important note: he /cheated on her/ with me for a day or two and then broke up with her. She went back and forth between telling him "you're awful" and "you're still my best friend" in the months following the breakup (when I was dating him). He's seen her a few times since to hang out together. She started dating around again. They're trying to be friends because they were so close for so long and she's got a rough situation right now. They're still texting. And I'm not expecting him to be completely over her just yet because their breakup as 6 months ago, but I'm expecting him to be decent to me and not make me feel like he's still after her. He's /expressed/ no interest in being with her again. But he texts her despite knowing how nervous it makes me. I asked if I could read the texts once and he was offended that I didn't trust him. I thought a fair compromise would be I won't get upset if he talks to her as long as there's transparency. He thought this was still a huge violation of trust. I understand the desire to remain friends because they were there for each other during the worst parts of their lives, but should I be worried that he doesn't want me to read the texts? Or is he justified in saying it's a violation of trust?

I want to snoop through his phone but that's nearly impossible to get away with. Should I try to do it anyway? I fear if I asked him for it he'd delete things first (I know I clearly don't trust him or her here but i would like to have reason to trust him and feel like seeing they're talking harmlessly would help). He'd be very upset if he knew I did that.

I am happily married to a wonderful man. He is decent looking and takes excellent care of me. We share passwords and have 99% open social media sites. Every once in awhile I come across an ex following him, visiting his pages, or flirty messages in his inbox. He tells me and turns them down, but that isn't enough for me. When he leaves I have been blocking these pushy females, exes. I feel a little guilty for not telling him, but this man is AWESOME. I refuse the thought of skanks getting the slightest of his attention.

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If your sig other blocked several girls w/o your knowledge would you consider it a violation of trust? Would you rather handle the unwanted attention yourself?

Which of these ultimately led to a break-up of yours? And who's fault was it? Your boyfriend/girlfriend or your fault?

1. Breaking promises, lying, cheating in relationships:

These obvious violations of trust almost always result in relationship problems. If the basic trust in a love relationship is repeatedly broken, the problems accumulate and the motivation to stay together decreases.

2. Imbalance of power in relationships:

Relationship problems arise when one partner has more decision-making power than the other. When one person makes all the decisions about activities, friends, financial matters, household matters, and vacations, the relationship can become unstable.

3. Low self-esteem, insecurity, and lack of self-confidence:

Couples can break up because one partner feels unworthy of being loved. This insecurity can lead to possessiveness and dependence, which isn’t healthy for couples in love.

4. Excessive jealousy in relationships:

“Jealousy is cited as one of the most frequent causes of the breakup of romantic relationships,” writes Roger Hock. Jealousy can sometimes trigger abuse and violence, which can cause a relationship breakup.