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We had an agreement of total clarity - if anyone is uncomfortable - we say it. But I am a kind of person who needs time to think things through and consider if it's worth the fuss.

So I was thinking and being moody and snappy for a week and on Friday I've told him everything I didn't like. For example, how he always told me to "chill" and "relax", whenever I tried to express feelings like frustration or stress. He actually told me I'm quite forceful, intimidating and have anger issues, which I almost laughed at, because I had problems with self-validation and have been quite timid for the most of my life. I started to feel like my feelings are being considered unimportant and he didn't want to deal with it, so I've told him that and asked for support and understanding, things I thought to be natural in a relationship.
Afterwards he went out drinking with his pals, even though he doesn't like it, so I felt guilty for upsetting him.

The very next day I got into a situation where I had to go out in a heavy rain to do a favour and the person dumped me, so I had a sour mood and shared it with him, and guess what he said? "Calm down", "Look for positives". So I flipped my lid and told him that I asked him to stop with this generic shit, because that's not what I want, he said that he refuses to be negative and play part in my pity party, I said alright and that was it.

It was 10 days ago. We have an anniversary today and I dunno what to do really. Should I give him a chance and talk to him or just leave it as it is and just quietly change FB status to single to give a hint and avoid confrontation? 🤔 I'd like some insight and external opinion. Thanks in advance!