Look at how a single candle can both defy and define the darkness. -Anne Frank
(WARNING: Profanity, Vulgar Sometimes( Not too much), Maybe Dark Humor, Theories of life, And Me Rambling. Enjoy It Or Not. Both Are Welcomed.)
Hello GAG community. I'd like to start off by saying I hope you're having a great day. There is an imaginary punch bowel to the side, it's my thanks to you all for coming to read myTake. If you're having a bad day well-
Now down to business. I want to begin by saying this, not giving a fuck about certain things is perfectly fine. In fact, that is what I'm advocating today. However, I do not agree with the ideology of not caring about anything or anyone at all. It's actually, in my opinion, extremely damaging and toxic an damaging to do such a thing.
I feel although it disregards negative things in life and leaves an unbothered feeling; a sense of numbness. It also disregards positive things in one's life and leaves room for the reckless behavior being projected not only in the individual's life but the lives of people around them as well.
Which I don't recommend, because I strongly think everyone should have some reasoning and care in the world towards something. It's up to people themselves to find out what those things are for them.
Here are my topics for things I personally feel one shouldn't give a fuck about.
1. Other Peoples Issues And Baggage (To An Extent)-
When regarding other people I believe there is a line between the things you should let within your life and mind, and what you should not. For examples, other peoples issues and problems that have nothing to do with you. Yes, you can be there for people and help them through tough times. However, when it comes to taking on the full weight of their issues, letting it stress you out, feeling like you have to save them and you're drowning because of it. Well, then there comes a time I think you should say to yourself-
It's alright to keep a distance and keep going on with your life while doing what you can. Some people can be very toxic and negative and a lot of times that's all you can do. Help as much as you can from afar for your own well being.
And when it comes to asking others for help or their views on things you should also only take a certain amount of that in.
I'd say only absorb the things you can benefit from, and I'll warn you by saying what you can benefit from isn't always what you want to hear.
Constructive criticism is alright and helps you learn and grow in life. The negativity, cruel judgments, and etc well you can throw that in the trash because of fuck all that. It's okay to be a little selfish sometimes and focus on yourself because in the long run without you having your stuff together you can't possibly help anyone else effectively. Not without an immense struggle that could crumble you both. Or make you stronger but there is a better way to do it is my point lol.
2. Whether Or Not You "Fit In" In The World-
My favorite quote regarding this particular topic is this one -
Normal Is An Illusion. What's "Normal" For The Spider Is Chaos For The Fly - Morticia Addams
I notice a lot of people go out into the world in search for themselves and who they are. Then either become like "everyone else" or get upset at the fact they still haven't found themselves yet. This is my theory by the way. Take it as a grain of salt, but to me, I find it baffling. Finding one's self is a lifelong process, you grow and learn who you are every day. Today you found out you're fond of this flavor ice cream or this certain book, or even the girl writing this thread. See-see what I did there?
Haha, my point is, every day you learn something new about yourself. Big or small. And whatever that is you should be embracing it and cherishing it because that's you as an individual. No matter how so-called weird, fucked up, screwy, wacky, trashy, sweet, loving, funny, or etc it is.
Waking Up To Who You Are Requires Letting Go Of WhoYou Imagine Yourself To Be - Alan Watts
So when it comes to "fitting in" with crowds, I say-
Just be you, and take things day by day. Who cares if most people don't like it. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself. So you might as well be happy with your life and what you do with it. (Warning: I'm not saying it's okay to do illegal or inhumane things. If that's what you're into okay but consequences will still come from your actions lol. So, in that case, I wish you good luck and may the odds be ever in your favor. )
3. How Messed Up Your Life Can Get (Hear Me Out)-
Life can be pretty messy and shitty, I agree.
A lot of people work at places they can't stand, have family issues, suffer from depression, mental disorders, health problems, and much much more. However, as cheesy as it sounds I have to agree with these two quotes about hitting rock bottom.
You know what's great about hitting rock bottom? There's only one way left to go, and that's up! -Buster Moon, Sing Movie
Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. - J.K. Rowling (Author Of Harry Potter)
Even when you aren't at rock bottom but you're going through a storm of madness and rough waters I'd say happiness is a state of mind. You can still dance in the rain of bullshit going on in life while you gather your bearings and work towards making it better. This is from experience, and I'd hate to say it but sometimes you really do need something to fuck up your world so you can rebuild it and make it better than before. I think natures secondary succession after a forest fire or natural disaster is proof of that. Plus, everything is temporary always.
Do Not Try To Fix Whatever Comes In Your Life. Fix Yourself In Such A Way That Whatever Comes; You'll Be Fine - Sadhguru
Sometimes the best way to clean muddy water is to let the debris settle on its own. Then work from there. Other times you can find your own solution and way of purifying your situation by doing what you are able to do for the time being. Take things in steps and things will start working more and more in the long run.
Stressing over it will only make it worse so I think taking this picture into consideration would help-
See, feels better already right? Here's one of my favorite mediations in situations where the day is hard and I want to blow off steam. You can use your own ways of calming down and coping though, I'm sure profanity might bother some of you. It does for me in a professional environment but alone or with people you trust I think it's fine.
4. Other Peoples Opinions Of You In General-
Now, this is one where I honestly feel like people should start adopting more. Especially if you're always on the internet and or GAG. I'll just say it flat out: People can be jerks. They will say many things unfiltered due to either them being bitter, spiteful, overall assholes, unbothered, having a screen or mask to hide behind of and whatever else. You can't control them or what they say/think about you.
But you can ignore the hell out of them every time they make it their business to put you as their target to flame.
Or I mean dedicate this song to them-
Always a classic gesture to recommend.
Or of course the kiss my ass gesture works like a charm as well.
And if they simply won't leave you be well GAG-
My point is, peoples chatter on and offline shouldn't hold too much over your head. Especially if it's not important or it is all out ignorant. In fact, you should see it so much around you now that one should become completely unfazed by it. Just acknowledge the things you feel are worth spending your time on and keep going because the world will like it or not. And being upset over the thoughts of another for too long is just hurting yourself. As this quote says-
Holding Onto Anger Is Like Drinking Poison And Expecting The Other PersonTo Die- Buddha
You hurt yourself in the long run by having an upset mood/day due to the foolishness of someone else who you aren't even fond of most times. It's not worth it in the end.
5. What Your Own Critical/Insecure Thoughts Are About Yourself -
No One Is More Dangerously Insane Than One Who Is Sane All The Time: He is Like A Steel Bridge Without Flexiblity, And The Order Of His Life Is Rigid And Brittle. -Alan Watts
it's okay to let yourself think freely without being so critical and judgmental of your own thoughts. And it's okay to go without being so hard on yourself about your actions or the past and maybe even the future. I know as hard as it is I think everyone should actively focus on the present MOST of the time.
Yes, our past experiences are lessons and things to help you grow presently, and the future is something to consider when making tough life decisions. However, everywhere else I think being mindful of your present moment will bring more peace and make it easier to focus on goals and overall living your life. Sometimes I feel we act too overdramatic when regarding ourselves and we look at every little flaw too closely.
When many things aren't very serious and should be taken with this type of attitude-
Thoughts are just thoughts, you have thousands of them every day. It doesn't mean you are a good or bad person (Which are abstract nouns anyway). They are visitors and overthinking a thought by holding it hostage with intense and self-damaging criticism will result in information overload and stress. I understand it's hard to do this sometimes, many people have anxieties and fears or other things causing the self-destruction to take place. However, I think meditation or whatever hobby that allows you to think undisturbed should be actively practiced. Generally, It keeps your head on straight when you to let your mind do its thing and become flexible to the motion of your thoughts.
Too much of anything could destroy you, Simon thought. Too much darkness could kill, but too much light could blind. - Cassandra Clare, City of Lost Souls
At the end of the day good, bad, sweet, rude, and etc are concepts that do not apply nor exist outside the mind. However, they do show a representation that will can't escape the contradictions of life. You need bad things just as much as you need good things. Chaos for there to be an understanding of structure and order. Dark for there to be any light. The logic to emotions, and more. A yin to a yang which makes life whole. So why worry too much about it?
My advice is it's okay to not take all of life to serious and say fuck it. The main purpose of life, in my opinion, is to just do that, L.I.V.E. So I'd just get out there and have fun. Thanks for reading, I'll look forward to reading comments if anyone read this lmao.
*Fills everyone's glasses with their imaginary drinks in it*
Have a good one, much love you guys! Lol, I'm low key high as shit so I know there might be some hippie vibes coming off me right now. Ignore it.
(Also sorry for such a long myTake. You can skip through, I added pictures and humor to help. Sorry for any typos I missed. )