Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you...”
― C. JoyBell C.
Sure, this topic has been done time and time again, but it's an ongoing relevant problem in our society today and it should never cease being addressed until the problem is eliminated.
Here's MyTake on:
BODY SHAMING & SELF ACCEPTANCE
Whether it may be obvious to you or not, we live in society dominated by standards of beauty and everything else. People constanly judge each other and expect others to conform themselves to what is appealing to them. If you're one of those people who constantly feel the need to ridicule others because of what they look like, you're in for a rude awakening because the world doesn't revolve around you.
THE SHAMING OF PEOPLE'S BODIES NEEDS TO STOP! WE COME IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES!
What compelled me to create this myTake was not only the distasteful mindset of society but most recently compelling, the responses to the Lane Bryant lingerie/underwear promotion video. Some of those responses which may even be yours were completely appaling and distasteful. I'm here to challenge all of you who may not accept yourself, thrust hate upon others, or just can't accept others to BE A BETTER PERSON and change your mentality. We should love ourselves and each other, and let people know that THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL no matter what they look like. Beauty isn't just about whether someone meets your standards of attraction. It's about the outside reflecting who you are on the inside. It doesn't matter how many people are attracted you, if you're ugly on the inside, you're ugly!
Being "Fat" or "Overweight" doesn't neccesarily equal unhealthy.
Being "Too Skinny" or "Underweight" doesn't neccesarily equal unhealthy.
Being "Slim" or "Slender" doesn't neccesarily equal healthy either.
I was underweight most of my life yet I ate a ton of food. Even though I was super skinny, I surely wasn't fit. The only reason I gained weight was from exercising. I've known people that are considered overweight that eat healthy diets and exercise regularly yet they're seen as "unhealthy" just because they're bigger and unnatractive in other's standards of beauty.
My point is that I guarantee you that some of the women (or men) you deem "unhealthy" because they aren't appealing to your eyes are a lot fitter then some of the attractive "healthy" people. I'm not bashing smaller people here either. I'm just saying that humans come in all shapes and sizes that don't necessarily determine their health status, so please excuse your ridicule because of something not being visibly attractive to you!
If you have a preference for skinny or more slender girls then that's fine, if you have a prefference for thicker girls, then that's fine, but to say a woman (or man) looks disgusting and is obviously unheathy just because she (or he) is bigger or smaller than what is appealing to your eyes is atrociously shameful, extremely distasteful and indecorous !
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TRYING TO DESTROY THE CONFIDENCE OF A PERSON WHO IS CONFIDENT WITH THEMSELVES AND/OR PROMOTING SELF LOVE REGARDLESS OF THEIR SIZE IS ABSOLUTELY VILE.
You should never shame anyone regardless of how they look because they are confident in their own skin.
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Body acceptance is not about glorifying obesity. It's about fucking loving your body at whatever size you are at.
― Mary Lambert
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A person being confident or content with who they are does not mean that they can't or don't want to "better" themselves; it means that, unlike the person slandering them, they know that despite their flaws, they are a beautiful human being and can still love themselves and live in their own skin despite what haters think or say while working towards being the best person they can be (which doesn't involve pleasing society's shallow standards).
Disrespectful remarks aren't promoting "good health"; they are promoting self hate amongst people who don't fit your standards.
FOR THOSE IN NEED OF SELF LOVE:
Someone out there is looking for exactly what you've got and will never try and undercut your value or question your worth. Some things in life just can’t be bartered over or placed on the sale rack - and your self worthis at the top of the list ― Mandy Hale
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FASHION INDUSTRY / MODEL STANDARDS
People are always using fashion models and VS models specifically to tell people what a "healthy" or "average" woman should look like or that to be attractive or beautiful you need to look like them. First off, these women are not selling their bodies. Plus size models are not promoting obesity, being unhealthy, or "doing a disservice to big people". They are models for a reason, just like VS models. They are here to promote clothing/lingerie. Not everyone woman is super slim; we come in all shapes in sizes, so there should be models in all shapes and sizes for brands trying to sell their clothes. Ladies, love yourself and do you. Don't feel intimidated because you're "not skinny enough" or "not thick or curvy enough". A man or an industry does not define your value. (Same goes for guys: you don't have to have a six pack or be super tall to be accepted. If you want to improve yourself for you and/or ask for opinions then that's fine).
JUST KNOW THAT:
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NOTE TO THE PEOPLE TELLING OTHERS THEY ARE ARE DISGUSTING AND SHOULD LOSE WEIGHT:
You are stressing those people out with your harsh words and making them uncomfortable with themselves. Just incase you didn't know, stress causes an increase in excess fats deposits. If you're so worried about a person being fat, stop sending them hate and making them fat! #JustSaying
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THIS IS WHAT WAS ACCEPTED BY SOCIETY BEFORE THE SUPER MODEL ERA!
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WEIGHT & HEALTH:
Like I stated before, skinny doesn't equal healthy and fat isn't equal to unhealthy. A person can eat the perfect diet described by dietitions and work out reguarly yet still look or be considered "overweight" and "fat" by society. The same goes for a person who could have a horrible diet and never work, being extremely unhealthy might be seen as "good skinny" or "healthy" just because he/she is slim when really, genetics just happened to work in their favor.
It's time we stop trying to be skinny or have curves in all the right places to please someone else, and start trying to be healthy by eating the best we can and being active when we can!
By choosing healthy over skinny you are choosing self-love over self-judgment. You are beautiful!”
― Steve Maraboli
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Happiness is something most of us desire. You can never truly be happy if you don't love yourself.
WITH THAT BEING SAID:
Eating like you love yourself means EATING ENOUGH and eating things that will benefit your body and make you glow inside and out! This doesn't mean you can't have your cheats and load up on sweets or guilty pleasures everynow and then but for the majority, put good things in your body. You wouldn't want your body to turn on you, would you? Be good to your body and it'll be good back to you. Forget about the scale and how much fat you have; your body will handle it when yo focus on being healthy!
Move like you love yourself means don't be lazy all the time. Get up and move! Do something productive and don't be sluggish or hesistant about it.
Speak like you love your self means to speak positively. Don't constantly put yourself down or put others down. Saying rude things to others just makes it apparent that you're uncomforable in your own skin and need to bring someone else down to make yourself feel good. Also, when you tell yourself positive things whether you believe it or not, you actually soak it up and start believing it, just like how people who hear negative comments constantly eventually start to believe them.
Act like you love yourself means to do things that help you and others rather than hinders you. Don't cut yourself! What did your body ever do to you? It never called you fat so don't starve and hurt it. When you act positively, positive things tend to radiate towards you and your life.
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REMEMBER TO LOVE AND LEARN TO ACCEPT YOURSELF BECAUSE IF YOU CAN'T, HOW COULD YOU ALLOW SOMEONE ELSE TOO?
If someone can't accept you for being content with who you are, they aren't worth your time anyway.
NOTE: I'm not saying that if someone suggests you change yourself lifestyle because they truly are concerned about yourself then you should just cut them out because there are cases when people are at risk and do need to lose weight. I'm just saying that you shouldn't change yourself just because someone doesn't deem you attractive or labels you unhealthy because you may have more fat than them.
“One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am. It is silly, isn't it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim "You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself" made clear sense. And I add, "Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.”
― Bell Hooks
I CHALLENGE YOU ALL TO PLEDGE TO THE POSITIVTY CHALLENGE
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Thanks for reading myTake!
STAY RAD. BE YOU. YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL.
☮ ALWAYS REMEMBER TO SPREAD LOVE, NOT HATE! ☮
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