How To Not Give A Crap

[ShesAmerican]

k so not giving a shit is perhaps one of the most important things a person can do and yeah confidence is hard to get but everybody can do it. Anyway let's go

Put Yourself First:

Ok it's cute and all when some people put the people they like first before themselves but to be honest if you keep on doing that people will take advantage of you and walk all over you like you're their doormat. So it's best to put yourself first and have your self care. Don't expect others to fix you, the only person and the only bestfriend you have to help you love yourself is YOU.

Ignore What Others Say:

When someone is confident, there will be at least a few people who'd say, "you're so cocky" "omg you think you're all that" "bitch" and honestly when people say that it just shows that they're insecure. It's not a bad thing, but if someone were to be confident they wouldn't say these kind of things.

AND WHO CARES? Whatever you do in life people will still judge you anyway. Even if you were the nicest person ever someone out there will still hate you. So do whatever the hell you want, stop seeking other approvals and walk forward.

People Are Temporary:

It's harsh but it's true lol. People will leave you at some point, so you shouldn't worry when some boy isn't answering your phone calls or you're being ditched or been through a break up or whatever, people leave eventually so being independent is important. I love the people in my life so much but there's gonna be a time for everyone where they have to leave for whatever. Stop trying to run after some guy who doesn't want you, you can't please everyone and that's ok

The world is a cold place so facing low self esteems and caring too much will do nothing but fuck you up big time

[Alistayr]

You should "give a crap" and other people's opinions are valuable. If you think you are above everyone, you'll be swift to fall. Do unto others as you would have others do to you. There is a lot of wisdom in that statement. When you fall, you will probably be the loudest voice on the planet crying for help, but with your attitude why would you expect anyone to care. I don't suppose, though, that you care about my opinion, so you're on your own. Good Luck with that.

[ShesAmerican]

When you do that, you also won't go anywhere in life. Why should i be insecure? why should i value other people's opinion so much? i can respect them, but that shouldn't mean i change mine and my own perspective. Nobody wants to be walked over and the world is so harsh that kind people turn into people who don't care anymore

[ShesAmerican]

You're either this way or the other way. There isn't anything in between

[GlenTrez]

There is such thing as in between. Some people care too much about what people say and some care too little. So I would say just figure out what you should care about and what you should not. There is a fine line between being confident and being arrogant.

[BaileyisDarcy]

here's the in between.

Im independent enough that im living on my own, dealing with my shit on my own, and saying fuckit when it comes to certain things i want to do thatll get me judged as hell. Im doing it anyway.

But im not a bitch. I dont care if someone calls me names, instead of getting upset ill laugh, and make that person a friend because friends who call you on your shit are the best kind. I will listen to other peoples problems, help out where i can (which is currently no where im broke as hell) and in the end here's whati get.

Not many friends, but theyre all real.
I've got my mates mum telling me her spare room will be mine if i find myself unable to pay my rent.
I left my last job (nursing home) with residents in tears because theyll miss me.

So on and so forth.

Never be one of the extremes. If you're a doormat people will treat you like one. If you're a bitch people won't want to have anything to do with you unless they want something.

[Swaggirl1]

This is so true. Once I stopped being consumed with how others perceived me I had a happier life and it was a lot easier to make friends.
And I agree helping others are good but there is times to put urself above others or you will be like a grape hanging from a grape vine hoping for someone to pick you but they will never come.
People can't achieve their goals without at putting their self first at some point.

[ShesAmerican]

Girl exactly! Literally

[Swaggirl1]

Thanks for the MHO

[ShesAmerican]

NP ❤️

[Purple_Babe14]

Hell yeah! Loved this story

[ShesAmerican]

tyyy <3

[LongWhiteBeard]

I'm a sociopath. If you need help not giving a crap? go fk yourself I don't give a crap.

This is how we roll right?

[ShesAmerican]

sure

[Anonymous]

You're definitely 17.

[ShesAmerican]

ok and

[Opinion Owner]

I guarantee you half or more of this you'll either give up or tone down in the professional world.

[ShesAmerican]

I'd rather love myself and be like that than hate myself

[ShesAmerican]

not giving a crap has always been helpful ( :

[Opinion Owner]

It is until others actually depend on you.

[ShesAmerican]

And how would you know if they are?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, you can avoid it all your life actually, but in essence if you ever lead.

[apple24]

Easy... I don't