How to have "Do not mess with me" attitude.

[Anonymous]

I am a pushover kind of person, some one who can't convince others and is easily maneuvered. Not that I hate myself but would love myself more if I earn respect from others.

Also I don't make friends easily. Even sitting amongst a group of people I feel lonely, nobody interested in talking to me, to worse it all no one interested in even listening to what I say.

I am invisible, treated like outcast ! :( :(

To cut the long story short I can't and don't wanna take sh*t from others. I want people to think twice, thrice ... before messing with me.

[ALWAYSclassy]

Well think about "why" you currently take sh*t from others? Are you afraid that you might lose their approval? Afraid of confrontation? Etc. You have to make people respect you, many people in this world are not nice and have no problem running over someone they feel as weak. Once you begin standing up for yourself it gets easier. Usually the person messing with you only does it because they feel they can get away with it, so when you show them what's up they usually leave you alone. You are a valuable person and just as good as anyone else. Don't forget that so when someone gets out of hand with you don't hesitate to put them back in their place.

[nanashi]

well I am a girl who has the atttude down for sure...if someone mumbles something at me I kinda shout "whats that? speak up...if you got something to say then say it out loud"

people know not to get on the wrong side of me..but mainly if someone hits me?..i swing for them just as quick...

i have never been a push over...so going from push over to ..well this...is going to take some time.

just don't be afriad to confront people...and let them know that they can't say or do bad things that are about you without you knowing about it..and doing something about it...

thats the way I am...

[Asker]

I love you so much !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thats exactly who I want to be, a wall that reflects anything thrown on it.

I have no problem in fighting back but then seeing people smiling to another on me or not willing to speak to me just because of heated words with the wrong doer - I am a loner.

[nanashi]

Lol its ok just glad to help...thats all = ]

[lansing]

If you were a guy I would recommend getting into a fight, not sure if that works with girls though

[Asker]

Getting into fight or fighting back ?