How to not be approachable?

[Anonymous]

I know this question seems crazy. But how do I become unapproachable. No matter where I am or how angry I think I look I always get people feel relax to come up and talk to me. I’m ok with that but most proceeds to tell me their darkest secrets or life story. I deal with the public at my job and it’s just as bad.

I have women that will come to my job and ask me why I blocked them or not responding to them. We are just friends or why I’m so friendly with the woman. Then proceeds wanting to talk to me or do things that make me happy to talk to them.

in public people think I’m a dad cause I’m great with kids. So other dads come up to me and complain about their significant other or brag about being a dad (that’s fine with me. But not when I’m waiting to use the urinal in the restroom.

how do I become more unapproachable? Why am I so well liked by most people? How can I reverse this? I wouldn’t mind living a semi recluse life.

[Nxtawm]

Well appearance is one thing, you can deter a lot of people if you just look unapproachable but if you can’t help looking approachable, it’s rlly just up to ur attitude and to you to shut down the convo. These conversations happen because you allow them to by continuously socializing with those people and possibly even respond back in ways that continue the convo. I doubt anyone is just walking up to you and immediately spilling their darkest secrets and if you say yes, ur lying. There’s always some form of greeting or shallow interaction first like asking how ur day is. If someone talks to you first, you can respond but just keep ur responses short and dry or if they’re telling a story, just don’t ask a follow up question. It’s not hard to be non sociable. It’s as easy as just saying something like “oh that’s cool” or “damn that’s tough” and going silent.

As for the whole women thing, maybe I’m not being understanding but just stop being so friendly towards women? I mean be kind ofc but you’re clearly being overly friendly if they think ur interested in them based off what you’re seemingly saying.

[Asker]

I respond yes ma’am or yes sir. The women thing most happens when I first meet them and crack a few jokes before you know it I’m a therapist. I don’t even listen. I have generic responses that most men have. “Wow, really, that’s crazy, seriously, no way.” But I say those phrases with everyone. I even slowly walk away. Just for people to walk with me. It’s just draining. I don’t want to be rude just repel people wanting to come up and talk to me all the time.

[Asker]

But your advice is great. So thank you I will use it and see how that goes.

[Nxtawm]

Hmm could possibly be a tone issue, maybe despite responding back simply, you still sound genuinely interested. Not too sure. Goodluck tho

[SueShe]

The first thing you need to do is obviously to get rid of all your social media since you are being harassed by people because of the social media.

That would take care of at least 50% of your trouble. Why do people feel that they need social media at all? You realize that they are giving you a hard time so eliminate the source of that trouble.

Change the way you dress in public and put baggy clothes on that give the impression that you are not taking care of yourself. That is also a good way to repel people if they realize that you look sloppy.

But do you really want all that?

[Asker]

Only social media I have his this website. The annoyance I’m referring to is personal cellphone. People in general annoy me. But some how I’m a people’s person because I know how to interact with them. But it’s draining at times.

[Richarding]

Being loved and consulted is something that is manageable in this world. (By the way, if you have to try something, the production of those urinals in the toilet that you said were not a problem to wait to use is completely unnecessary, it is completely hearsay, empty delusion, false claim, on the contrary, it is It also causes you to have a lot of unwanted trouble. and dirty causes risk to believe the claim that they are supposedly comfortable and practical.)

FALSE = Very Dangerous / TRUE = Very Logical

[Anonymous]

LOL. "Women come to my work and ask me why I blocked them". Funniest thing I've read today, thank you for the laugh! Your trolling was amusing.

[Asker]

Not trolling actually. Happened 4 days ago.