How to be more approachable?

[Anonymous]

Never ever in my entire life has a guy approached me (ok, there were two exceptions: a tourist, who just wanted some fun and a man in his sixties). I am wondering what is wrong with me? I'd say that I'm an average looking girl with an average expectations. The truth is that I'm not a party type of person, but I guess there are plenty of guys who prefer reading or training to partying. I wish I could be more approachable. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

The girl I'm trying to talk to is hard to approach as well. So I'll tell you what she does. Her friends told me she likes me, but even then, it's hard with how she acts.

If we make eye contact, she will look away and not even smile. For the most part, she just avoids eye contact at all. I've tried to get her attention, but she always looks away, making me feel like she doesn't want to talk to me, but her friends assure me she does.

So I'd say it mainly comes down to eye contact and smiling. Guys usually wait for an invitation to talk to you, so if you are giving signals that you don't want to talk to them, they won't approach.

[Anonymous]

You must not get out much. I live in a busy city so I'm exposed to more people and I've gotten approached though I wouldn't say a lot. Most are by old men looking for a good time if you know what I mean.

In school and work I'm not approached.

Try making eye contact and smiling at a guy you want to approach. That won't guarantee but it increases the chance that he will. Only eye contact doesn't help much unless you add a smile.

Granted most of the times I've been approached without me doing all that but it's usually men that aren't my type. Smiling and making eye contact has encouraged men who normally don't seem to approach me aka my type.

[SofiSin667]

It's the vibe you give off... closed off. That being said, the only way it'll work is if you start reaching out first. Let them know you're friendly and if one of them is interested he'll show it or if you're interested... maybe you can initiate. Exchange numbers, meet up for coffee or whatever else you like, go to the movies, out for a run or whatever floats your boat. The goal here is for them to know you're open to meeting someone and you're willing to put in some initiative too.

[MrCommodore]

Just work on your body language to make yourself more approachable, if you see a guy you find attractive or like, smile at him and appear friendlyand open to conversation.

Its not necessarily about you needing to flirt, you just want to show a guy you like that it's OK to approach you, basically your making it easy for him to make the first move.

Also avoid closed body language and show signs of flirting if you like.

[RenegadeSailor]

Get a hobby that men also enjoy.

Go join a club or go to meetups for that hobby, you will find a man.

[Cowboy6666]

Be girly girl, smile and talk with guys, visit parks, shopping malls, dress sexy etc

[Anonymous]

Make yourself available