How to seem more approachable?

[Anonymous]

I know the obvious thing would be to enhance my appearance, but I face a challenge where guys don't approach me immediately. It often takes them days or even weeks to warm up before initiating contact. I usually discover much later that a guy had feelings for me, often towards the end of the school year or when transitioning jobs. I wonder if I'm being delusional or if I'm perhaps someone's last choice or maybe I’m just unapproachable? I try to smile and make eye contact , I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, I totally get how that can be frustrating feeling like guys are taking forever to come around. But don't be so hard on yourself - there's probably not much you're doing "wrong" at all!

A lot of it could just come down to shy dudes needing time to work up the nerve. We're not always the best at picking up signals right away either.

A few things that might help you seem more approachable though - try striking up convos with guys first sometimes. Even just a friendly "hey, how's it going" can catch their eye and let them know you're open to talking.

Smiling is great, complimenting their shirt/shoes or asking class questions is another easy low-pressure icebreaker. The more comfortable you make a guy feel instantly, the less intimidated he'll be.

You also gotta remember - just because someone's shy doesn't mean you're not totally their type! We're all going through it, learning as we go. Give yourself more credit for being an awesome, confident girl who's fun to be around.

Keep doing your thing, put yourself out there naturally. The right guy will be dying to make a move once he sees what he's been missing out on! Chin up sis, your moment is coming :)

[Nikki1989]

Be outgoing and friendly, and people will approach.

[Anonymous]

Keep smiling and making eye contact, and don't be afraid to be the first to say hi.