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I quite often get guys looking at me, I know I'm not too bad looking. Why do they look at me and smile when we make eye contact but they never approach me, what can I do to change that?
P. s I do smile back at them and try to seem open even though I'm shy.
You’re young so it will take you some time to develop your spidey senses to sense what men are thinking. But being a female you will usually develop more naturally vs. guys your same age.
Anyway here are things to make women less approachable and how to improve.
- having resting bitch face. Older guys can understand the difference but younger guys get don’t know it. Just smile more if you can help it.
- dressing too uptight (but don’t do the exact opposite). So if you wear slacks and a long sleeved shirt it might come off as “I don’t want any male attention at all. I just want to focus on serious stuff”. But dressing classy yet feminine (appropriately lengthened skirt and comfortable tops) makes guys more comfortable. Dress how you would for a summer picnic.
However do NOT go overboard with revealing yourself. That will attract the wrong kind of attention from the wrong type of guys. You are also still a minor so be cautious.
- use light makeup. Zero makeup isn’t great but too much makeup actually makes guys nervous as well. When women put too much I get the feeling they really want the attention for the sake of attention and are hypocritically over defensive if they guys want anything more. Personally I’m less likely to approach women who wear too much
- say hello to guys you like and smile. If they like you they usually will start a conversation.
Don’t say hello to guys you don’t like BUT just be surface polite/courteous if they politely say hi to you first. Acknowledge them but don’t indulge them.
- don’t “tease” guys you like unless you already know them well and/or are for sure they can handle it.
I’ve had girls who secretly liked me always start off by poking fun at me about something. This lead me to a catch22 situation. I was left wondering to myself “does she only see me as a friend but not attractive so she feels confident and comfortable teasing me”? If I think she’s attractive that’s a horrible situation. Or is she the “fun combative” type and gets turned on when I tease or even insult her back? Some women love the drama of arguing. That’s not for me. Not a good way to start things out in most scenarios.
What I've noticed with a lot of women is that they either avoid eye contact, never smile, or always appear busy. As in, they're always moving around, they have their earbuds/headphones in, they're buried on their phones or they're with friends. It seems like the first two aren't necessarily an issue for you. But to appear more approachable, you have to remove all barriers to yourself. Take out your earbuds, put your phone away, ditch your friends, stop moving, and don't stay too close to people. No guy wants an audience to his approach. Basically, your body language has to say "I'm here waiting for you, no one else is around, and you have my undivided attention".
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Smile, eyebrow raise and speak up. Say “hi, can I help you?”
Believe it or not, guys are "afraid of rejection". You can sugar-coat it any way you want, but that's 90% of the concept in a nutshell
Try this- - - - - Ask us guys to help you, about a "guy " thing.
At the hardware store, "where are the Phillips' screwdrivers?" (they're the ones with the "4-point star")
Food store, "how can I pick a good watermelon?" (no smell; a moderate sized, light patch on one side shows it ripened up a bit in the field. Tiny patch, underripe. Huge patch, overripe, maybe even stinky.)
Paint shop, "why would I want a shiny paint?" (the shinier and glossier the finish, the more durable and scrubbable it should be. My rule of thumb is to use the dullest finish paint that will be serviceable enough for your needs).
(advanced flirting). At the driving range, "can you help show me how to hold this club?" Have him put his arms around you, and- uh- you can figure out the rest. ;- )
Good luck.
Ugh ahaha I've been In this situation, you sound really cute by the way you describe your actions. I think maybe walk past them and give a solid stare as you walk past they will probs start a convo. It's 1000× less likely to be rejected as a cute girl than it is as good looking guy, so the guy has more too lose, that's why a lot of guys are pussies cos after multiple rejections their guts don't wanna be hit with another blow. We know you want us too be strong but being humans our emotions take a toll aswell from being the initiators lol
Back in the day men would go outta their way to approach women be chivalrous, kind and yes even gentlemen like but not anymore sense one word from a woman be it a lie or not and guy is in deep shit women are a hell of a lot likely to be believed. Women its innocent until proven guilty men its guilty until proven otherwise its happened to me where women did not like me talking to them and falsely accused me of sexual harrasment. But hey im a autistic man so of course they are gonna believe the cute rich woman people with autism will always be oppressed in society. However how about you approach them with today's climate its unlikely men will approach women unless in a group.
1. You're 17, and you might look younger than you realize.
2. Men are afraid of being wrongfully accused, #metoo, or going to jail over a girl.
3. It's 2022, approach him.
Oh my god, this is the exact problem guys face!!!
You are so thoughtful! Thanks for asking the question! I like it very much.
Most girls I see walk round with a resting bitch face honestly doesn’t hurt to smile does it😂😂they could genuinely be the nicest person but look like a brat so I’d say just try to smile 😂
If u think a guy is looking at u, it doesn't hurt to go talk to him urself. They actually think that is more attractive. A confident woman. U don't have to be boastful or loud, just walk up to whomever and say hi! Guys are shy too u know. They just try to act tough to cover up the ego.
Why don't you just walk up to the man that you're trying to approach and just say hi don't be so shy it's not that hard just come up to me and start talking if you're interested otherwise I will never know
A gentleman would only think a girl is unapproachable if she looks busy with something. If you are listening to headphones or have your head buried in your phone then guys are not going to approach. Or if you're talking to a bunch of your girlfriends. No guy wants to have to interrupt a bunch of women to talk to one girl. That would be awkward for anyone except a complete narcissist.
If approaching them is too hard, do you believe you have it in you to wave them over when you're caught in an eye-contact-and-smiling match? It's a pretty straightforward way to say you would like them to approach you at some point.
Instead of thinking about how to be more approachable, why don't you learn how to approach?
After all, men now adays know that if they approach and it's not wanted there could be legal consequences. Therefore YOU should approach. 😊 Have fun.
I don't think it has much to do with you. It's just that you are probably very attractive and they they don't have the confidence to talk to you. They probably think you have high standards and you wouldn't like them
It's not a YOU problem. If guys feel approaching a girl is too high risk, they won't do it for fear of rejection. No one wants their ego bruised.
A guy looking at you and smiling doesn't mean he wants to approach. Sometimes simply enjoying the presence of a girl is more than enough. I've been approached by women after looking at them and it can be awkward... I was just looking...
Help yourself to leave the shyness behind, I'm also shy and one time a girl smiled and waved to me in a grocery store and I ran away to get to the other end of the store I feel bad but see what shyness does to us? So now I got to work on my shyness so I don't chase the women/ girls away.
I definitely would have to see a picture of you because the only thing I can think of is that you are beautiful and they don't know how to act or react
Try to talk to guys and put them at ease. They're probably nervous.
Either approach them OR make it 100% obvious that you want them to approach you. You could even waive them over. But at any rate just be non-resistant. Don't give them any reasons to not approach you. Don't be confusing.
I think you might be missing both a point and multiple opportunities. Do not get caught in the trap of waiting for men to approach you. If you want your potential relationship to be the best it can be, start by ridding yourself of preconceived notions of gender roles.
In other words, if you are interested in a guy, take some initiative. Chat him up and see what happens.
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